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December 22, 2008 at 6:06 pm #23558Anonymous
ok, yesterday I saw my cousin. big deal right? well as I was leaving instead of just giving me a quick hug like usual he gave me a long really tight hug that seemed a little creepy. :huh: I don’t know if it was anything or if I’m just imagining it, but I’m not the type that likes to be given squishy hugs by my cousins.
He also has been talking to me in a low voice as if he’s saying something private when we’re just chatting. :dry:
Him and his wife invited me to come to their house for an afternoon and I basically said that I would go. Do you think that I am in any danger from him at all?
Maybe I’m just imagining this, but that hug was really strange. Any advice?
Oh yeah, and our family always hugs each other goodbye when we leave, can you think of anyway that I can avoid this without being rude?December 23, 2008 at 3:36 am #23565jessey223
Well I guess you are really the only one to answer that. I know I always give a hug and a kiss on the cheek and sometimes I will hug a little tighter. Just depends on my mood really. However none of my cousins live by me so I don’t see them often. For me if I am in a good mood I am more likely to give a nice big hug just as an I love you type of thing (to my family only of course).December 23, 2008 at 11:54 pm #23571queenB
I would not go if I were you. You need to trust your feelings. Not going is playing it safe. You have nothing to lose, but if you go and something does happen you will kick yourself. Don’t go.December 24, 2008 at 5:54 pm #23579Evangeline
Always trust your gut feeling, it’s a problem with us women, we don’t wanna appear rude, so we walk into a situation that feels wrong/ uncomfy just so we don’t hurt anyone’s feelings. Play it safe and follow yr instincts.December 27, 2008 at 2:24 am #23588Anonymous
Maybe you should mention to him that it made you uncomfortable? I know exactly how you feel about the hugging thing. I’m not comfortable with hugs like that, either, and I know that I can get a little carried away with the meaning of a hug. I would trust your feelings, though, because many women don’t and end up in a bad situation. But bring it to his attention! Maybe he meant nothing by it, or maybe he did.December 27, 2008 at 8:09 pm #23603Anonymous
Thanks for your replies, girls! 🙂 They were very helpful!
I decided that I would only go for two hours instead of the full day, and that I would stick close to his wife. Thankfully they live in a condo so it’s pretty small and there’s like no privacy.
You are so right, I sooo do not want to be rude that I take unnecessary chances. I just don’t know how to change that.December 30, 2008 at 2:33 pm #23619Evangeline
You gotta learn to be assertive:) You can stand up for yourself without being rude. Tell him that even though you know he means you no harm, it makes you uncomfortable and you’d like him to stop…
Evangeline.January 2, 2009 at 6:48 pm #23641kez_mummy_2_skye
How did it go.
At least his wife was there if anything did happen. Just be VERY cautious.January 12, 2009 at 11:51 pm #23758Anonymous
It went well, I’m still not sure if I was reading into the hugs and the quiet talking or not, but nothing bad happened and I mostly visited with his wife. Thanks for asking 🙂
Thanks for the ideas Evangeline! 🙂
I’m being more careful around him, but it seems to change from time to time whether I feel uncomfortable around him or not. Who knows.
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