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January 15, 2007 at 9:44 pm #14477jessica828497
I need some advice! I am pregnant, but I dont know if it is my husbands or his brothers. I know that sounds bad, but there is a long story behind it. My husband wants me to have an abortion, but I dont beleive in abortion, its just not for me. He said that if I keep the baby he will leave me, but I already have 3 other kids and cant picture getting rid of this one. Can someone please help me?January 16, 2007 at 5:21 am #14481chutney
it doesnt sound like u want that abortion…so dont have it, even if ur husband wont stay with u if u keep the baby, whos sayin ull want to stay with him after he has pressured u into something that big! my friend was pressured into having an abortion by her boyfriend, only to split up with him herself after a week or so cos of what he made her do.
that way ud end up losing both.
i dont want to give u false hope, but maybe when the babies born or u find out ur due date (n maybe conception date) n the baby turns out to be ur husbands, maybe he’ll want to be there.
doesnt he want the baby at all? or wud he be ok with it if it was his? … just wondering …
good luck xxJanuary 16, 2007 at 9:48 am #14486dillon12
you have to do what is right for you, if u have an abortion becoz someone else wanted you 2 thn u will hate yourself so much more. u have to make the right decision for u. u have to look inside your self and do what you think is best for u and your children. hope this helps a little.January 16, 2007 at 9:59 am #14487shelbja07
Hey girl! My sister went through the same thing, She was soo scared that he would leave her, But she was already pretty far.. Long story short she had to go to a Different State to get an abortion, and she said it was the worse thing she could have done! I know she tells me all the time that if she couldve done it over she would have kept her baby because she thinks about what she did Every single day! I hope that mey have helped u a littleJanuary 16, 2007 at 1:19 pm #14489Carla99_uk
Hi i had an abortion friday because its what my family and boyfriend wanted me to do. I have regretted it since friday i have been in tears every single day thinking to myself why have i done it i know that i could have brought that baby up and i just went along with what everybody else said i wish i hadnt i have now killed my little baby because other people told me to. Dont let anybody pressure you into what you dont want to do because i did and i know i will regret it for the rest of my life.January 17, 2007 at 8:55 am #14505InLA
YOU are the only one worth changing your life for.
Not once did you mention what YOU wanted.
Think about what you want… and forget about the men involved. When you’ve figured out where you stand. It will make you stronger to deal with whatever happens next.January 18, 2007 at 3:31 pm #14554ashleymarie07
[color=#0000FF]this is my advice, if you do not want an abortion do not get one. the decision is yours and yours alone. everyone i know who has gotten an abortion has regretted it. and i am sure you will since you dont believe in it. i know your in a tough situation but that is no reason to abort a baby that you do not want to abort. there are so many gurls here who will support you thru your pregnancy. but if u need to talk about anything just let me know!!!:kiss: just remember what ever decision you make you always have to live with yourself and the decisions you make!!
keep me posted!![/color]January 19, 2007 at 5:44 am #14570PINKISPRETTY706
DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT… YOU HAVE TO LIVE WITH THE CHOICE YOU MAKE.. IF HE DOESN’T LIKE YOUR CHOICE IT WASN’T MEANT TO BE.. AND IF YOU DECIDE TO HAVE THE BABY BUT DON’T WANT IT THERE IS ALWAYS ADOPTION PLENTY OF WOMEN CAN’T HAVE BABIES AND WOULD LOVE TO ADOPT.. THINK ABOUT IT AND GOOD LUCK HOPE YOU CAN FIGURE SOMETHING OUT.January 19, 2007 at 9:10 am #14579jade72
Heyya. well you are in a tough situation and must be stressing bigtime! The main thing is that you want to keep the baby regadless of who the father is. your husband is asking you to KILL a child not yet born. The worst part is that he is threatening you by saying he’ll leave if you keep the baby, but wouldn’t this make you not want to be with him. He’s asking you to make a very unfair choice. Him or a baby? Believe me if you were to abort the baby and he stayed with you, you would not love him anymore because of what he made you do. I hope that helps in some way. I know in the past I have done things that I did not want to do for guys and I ended up hating them for it. Nothing as intense as this but I mean he has no right to ask you this even if he may not be the father. Take care and GOD bless:kiss:
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