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- November 21, 2007 at 4:59 am #19655
Hello! I’m 19 years old, and married, and I just recently (about a week ago) found out that I am pregnant. It was completely unexpected, because I was on birth control, although it is exciting.
My husband and I are both full-time students right now, so this was really the last thing we had planned. Financially things are definitely going to be difficult, which is stressful, but a baby is a blessing, even when unexpected, so as stressed as I am, I am equally happy about having a baby. So is my husband.
I’m just worried about how I’m going to adjust to life… I mean, I’m on a scholarship at school, and if I were to stop at all, I would likely lose my funding, and I have no money to go to school, and am not going to take out loans that I’ll be paying off for the rest of my life. And I work part-time… so I’m a really busy person, and I’m not sure how to fit the baby into all of that. I believe that things always manage to work out well, I’m just getting stressed about school and work. How am I going to manage everything?
I’m also just worried about reactions of teachers/students. Most people thing it’s odd enough that I am married so young… I have very little time between classes, and almost no time to go to the bathroom (and I have to pee alot now!!), and my teachers get super upset when people leave the room… I want to let them know that I now have special needs because of pregnancy so I don’t look like a rude person getting up all the time to leave different classes, but I’m too uncomfortable to tell them I’m pregnant. They’ll realize it as soon as my stomach grows, but I’m just not looking forward to the reactions of those in my school environment.
Has anyone else gone through this at college? Advice? I’m so excited to have the baby, I just don’t want it to seem like some big scandal!!
Thanks.November 21, 2007 at 3:07 pm #19656
OMG it’s so good to see someone my age who’s married… I’m engaged and everytime i tell someone they get so negetive about it just because I’m younger than most of the ‘happily engaged’ first let me applaude you on that because its so hard to find these days. Second I totally understand how your feeling me and my fiance are trying for a baby but ‘m a little anxious to know how I’m going to fit it in i work 12 hour days a so…But i guess work is so much more flexible than school…what you should do is go online and find out whether your school has any special facilities or whatever for students wit children and babies you could always make something up to explain your needing to pee however telling your teacher you have a weak bladder may be 100x more embarassing! Third I would say put your head up and don’t be embarrassed..so what if some foolish ignorant people seu’r not a child you are a married woman…you really can’t worry about people’s reactions…some people would have a heart attack at the thought of being married at 19…did you let taht stop you?? don’t stress though girl because it will shake your focus…what you need to do is sit with your husband and parents (if you’ve told them) and think of a plan of action…and the sooner you tell your teachers the better and tell them proudly…which looks worse a girl hiding/not saying anything about her pregnancy whos belly is growing and needs to go pee all the time or a young married woman striding proudly to her teacher and announcing that she is having a baby and therefore needs to have a proactive discussion o how she can work her school around it …..the latter i thinkNovember 21, 2007 at 5:49 pm #19657
First off i say. Anyone else’s opinion, if its bad let it fly out the window so to speak. This is YOUR life, you have made your decision. Keep schooling until you cant do it anymore or can u still keep doing it althrough pregnancy?
Stop stressing, i know it may be hard but it wont do anyone any good. I reckon just go with the flow and let things happen naturally. There is so many ppl out there that become pregnant and worry too much about having a baby, and they go on to be just fine even if they arent rich. Its the LOVE that really counts and you are showing it already by keeping this baby:) Good luck with the rest of the pregnancyNovember 22, 2007 at 5:51 am #19661
Don’t be afraid to tell them that you are pregnant. You ARE MARRIED and if they are going to judge you for that, not only are they out of place but it is unnecessary. You will do fine. Obviously this was in God’s timing because you were on birth control and it happened anyways. Just relax and let things flow. Be glad that you have this opportunity, I’ve lost 3. I know that the timing seems off but things will work out. Good luck. And just be honest with your teachers… 🙂November 27, 2007 at 8:26 am #19724
I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for your wonderful comments ; )
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