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March 7, 2007 at 11:16 am #15655Meg11
I have been on this site for about a week now and I have experienced so much emotion as a result. I have cried, gotten angry, felt broken, been ashamed, felt defensive, and I have also been disgusted. What are we doing with our lives??? Personally I am breaking the cycle. How about you. So many girls on here have come from broken homes. Some girls have had no one to mother them because their own mothers were or are off sleeping around. Some of us grew up watching our mothers being beaten. Some of us have been or are being sexually abused by the men in our mothers lives. We need to make a stand. Not a pridefull arrogant one but one of truth love and purity. We all fall short of perfection. We all make poor choices. But so many of us on this site are parents. We have a responsibility to protect our children and not drag them through the same garbage we have been through. Am I wrong??? Sometimes I find it so hard to teach my daughter to act like a lady because I never acted like one. We want to and should teach our daughters to be modest and pure but how can we do that if we are not being modest and pure??? We want to and should teach our sons to respect women, but how will we do that if you are showing them that men can come and go as they please and even hit you if they feel like it??? We should teach our kids that drugs and alcohol can and will ruin our lives, but how can we do that if we leave them at the sitters house and go out clubbing??? When your kid says a bad word that they learned from you you tell them that it is bad??? What, is there a certain age when it becomes ok to talk like that??? We are parents we need to set an example. Will be be perfect NO but making small mistakes all the time is better than not trying at all. Please, if you dont have kids yet set your life on a new path TODAY dont mess around anymore with things that hurt you (sex drugs alcohol) If you have parents and you think they suck because they are always "preaching"at you and they "dont let you have any FUN" reconsider what they may have learned from their mistakes. If your parents dont care about what you are doing and they let your boyfriend live with you or what ever you can still make the choice to live your life responsibly. Just because its allowed does not mean its ok!! If you are a mom in and out of boyfriends (that was me for a while) going to the bars for a little fun (used to be me too) please think about when your kids get bigger they need you to set a good example. Imagine your 10 yr old daughter telling you shes pregnant and had AIDS and that she doesnt know who the father is!! I am so glad that someone cared enough to tell me the truth of where my life was going I hope I didnt hurt anyone with this but I do hope that it woke someone up. Please join me in BREAKING THE CYCLE…..God Bless… MegMarch 7, 2007 at 5:02 pm #15665Anonymous
I"LL JOIN YOU! You are SOOO right! And alot of the time, as teenagers, we dont realize the mistakes we are making and how they could affect our lives! We usually tend to look at one side of the situatioin. And as we grow older, we learn to look from all different angles of a situation! I know i didnt realize how hard it would be to have a baby! And i sure didnt listen to my parents! but now i can see where they were comeing from! AND THEY WERE RIGHT!!! So i’ll join you and BREAK THE CYCLE!!!!!March 8, 2007 at 10:22 am #15695navywife
I am right with you. when you have a child no matter what age you are you are now a responsible adult. i dont care if you are 13 and havent had a chance to do things that most teens do, you are a parent. you gave up that option when you decided to have sex. i believe if you feel you are responsible enough to have sex then you are responsible enough for a kid. sometimes even i feel as if i want to go out and have fun, you know act my age. but i have a family now and i need to be responsible and take care of them. And so should everyone else. do what is best for your children and grow up. I know it sounds harsh but its true. its their interest to have in mind, no longer your own.March 8, 2007 at 10:36 pm #15711xBeautiful.Disasterx
i agree with you so much on this one as a girl who’s in foster care, selfharmed, been abused by her father and has parents who are heroin addicts i know it’s time to break the habbit, i’ll do everything i can to be a better mum than i ever had!!
see you around girls 🙂March 10, 2007 at 5:24 am #15746Anonymous
Right on! Not easy but possible and sooo freeing to make it back cross that line.
This quote helped me.
"I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love."
— Mother Teresa.April 28, 2007 at 11:12 am #17129mommaofboys
Meg I can totally relate to you and what you have gone through. I am married now but have experianced 2 unplanned pregs. The father of my oldest abandonned us, I felt sooo alone. I stayed out of relationships for the first year of my sons life, but I was living with my mom and sister(also was a single mom) and they drove me to the edge. I started drinking occasionally and not caring about myself and wasnt a very good mom for a couple years. The most painful thing is trying to find love in the wrong places and always come up empty, and put your kids last. I had a couple of failed relationships that added to it. i dont know how to not be co-dependant. I put myself in a bad situation and was raped. Thats how my second son came to be, I did meet my hubby 2 weeks after that and he has been daddy for the last 5 years of his life. I sometimes think what would happen if I was alone, would I be able to cope would I run into the arms of another man? We have another son too, so its not an option.Only through the strength of our Lord and Saviour can we become strong…….I vow to break the cycle.
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