My boyfriend(ex boyfriend) and I are on on and off again terms. I think because of this the baby should have my last name, since shuold we part permamently the baby will live with me and we are not married. I always thought the baby had the mother’s last name (and in most cases the parents were or were going to be married)
AM i being selfish?
what have some of you done and what are some reasons you have chosen to give or not give the baby the father’s last name.
most babies have the fathers last name, even if they aren’t married or getting married…..it’s the mothers choice to give the last anme of the father…it doesn’t mean that he’s not got a responsibility to the baby, not having his last name will make it harder for you to get him to pay child support without getting a paternity test……that’s just my opinions or knowledge or whatever…..it’s ultamitly ur choice….
i haven’t got a baby. but my sister gave her son her last name because they were split up when he was born and the dad never saw him, he doesnt deserve any credit for my nephew, and my nephew has now got his step-dads last name.
but my bf’s sister gave her son her bf’s last name, but they were together when he was born, but not anymore. but he still has a lot to do with the baby, see’s him everyday etc…and how hard he works and much he loves his son i think the dad deserves it…
if u think the dad "deserves" it , i think its nice to give the dad that cos it’s a very "manly" thing to pass the name on to your children. if u understand what i mean lol, i didnt explain that very well.
but basically its ur desicion, its not bad to give a baby ur name if u and the dad arent married, many people decide different things, no one should judge u for it.
I had my son at 16 and even though I was with the father we hyphenated the last name and gave him both, because either way if we got married (which we did) we just dropped my last name, and had we not stayed together I could have dropped his last name 🙂
Hope that helps, congratulations and good luck on your journey!
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