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September 12, 2008 at 2:24 am #22200taycarwillow
so i had my daughter june 23rd and a week after she was born i had already lost 20 pounds. i gained 40 during the whole pregnancy. so i was all happy the baby weight was just falling off but then Hanna(my daughter) went into the hospital for two weeks so with the combination of sitting the whole time, stress and eating crappy hospital food i gained some weight back and now since school has started and im working ALL THE TIME. i’ve gained it all back….im soooo huge i hate myself…im 201 right now and i hate it…i didnt really realize how big i was until i got my hair colored and for the two hours that she was doing my hair i was just staring in the mirror on the verge of tears…i hate myself….i wanna lose the weight but i cant!
has anyone done something they had success with? i need to get this weight off and soon! i hate being unhappy…
i just need help…September 13, 2008 at 2:22 am #22207Meg11
Hey hey hey….calm down…You are a beautiful young girl, you just had a baby, it is so normal to fluctuate for a while. Trust me I hate it too. I have had 3 and the chances of you being a skinny minnie again are way higher than mine. Just avoid looking in the mirror in concentrated amounts of time, I force myself to not pick my appearance apart. You have the “battle wounds” and “scars” of a mommy, that is what you are, be proud of it. The important thing is are you breastfeeding? If so then just eat healthy and you will find that your waistline and weight will milk its way out slowly over time…portion control is the best way to go…if you are not breastfeeding then you can cut your portions back a little bit more but don’t over do it…you need to stay healthy. Also the weight can be muscle tone from all the carrying and lifting you do as a busy mom. Don’t look at weight, look at health and inches…it can take a full year to get back to a comfortable size…give yourself a break…you are beautiful…ok?? You will make it…wear your “proof of motherhood” proudly…cover your mirrors and get the “images” of what you “should” look like out of your head…J Lo and Brittany and Branjolina can afford tummy tucks, we can’t, it doesn’t mean that under the airbrush that they don’t have stretch marks and cellulite and flab. At least we don’t have people following us with a camera waiting to catch us at our worst like they do…LOL…hang in there girl…you are beautiful!! And little Hannah was worth every pound, wait till she starts running, it will melt away!! Love you and take care…MegSeptember 13, 2008 at 2:39 am #22209Anonymous
It’s so difficult to be a teenage mother because of self-esteem issues. Meg is so right! Just realize that you’re not alone, and you are totally and completely normal. Let the important things take control of your life, not the insignificant ones. Look at the positive things about yourself and just let it be. Maybe take a jog for 30 minutes a day with baby. Just eat healthy and everything will fall into place.
And I am the prime example of muscle weighs more than fat. I have very muscular legs and I weighed a little more than most girls because of that, but I had the same flat stomach as them.
If you need any advice or help on eating healthy, go to mypyramid.gov. It was really helpful to me and less stressful with getting all the nutrients that I needed daily. I think that they even have a breastfeeding pyramid, if you’re doing that. You can even customize it!September 13, 2008 at 5:33 am #22215EccentricChic1
Hang in there sweetie! It is hard, I had complications during my pregnancy and I gained a total of 80 lbs! About 40 of it came off pretty quick but the rest has come off slowly over time, with exercise, even just making a point to walk around the house more will help, and try to be aware of the foods you’re eating. Having a baby is a big change and I don’t know many new moms who don’t struggle with how they look afterward, but remember you’re not alone on this and we’ll be here for you!September 13, 2008 at 6:48 pm #22221Anonymous
Meg is soooo right. 🙂 Please listen to her! 🙂
If you want suggestions here are a few…
My cousin lost 10 pounds recently just from not eating icecream at night, so cutting down on sugar would be good.
Also if you can manage to eat some fruit (like an apple or a peach) in the mid morning and then again in the mid afternoon that can help.
Eating whole wheat bread instead of white and cutting down on the amount works for my Mom…
But try not to stress about it… and don’t be too critical of yourself! 🙂
Hugs!September 15, 2008 at 4:29 pm #22232jessey223
Your not alone most mom’s gain weight and struggle with getting it off initially. Like they said just breastfeed, walk or jog when you can (the baby will probably love it). This too shall pass………September 15, 2008 at 5:27 pm #22234princess Angela
Sweetheart i feel your pain since i was pregnant i put on 30kilos and only lots about 15 kilos im going crazy i feel huge and i hate it… ive started walking every arvo tryin to get it off because i cant stand my body…. i no exactly how u feel….September 16, 2008 at 3:49 pm #22246kez_mummy_2_skye
im going through the same thing and you feel like just giving up but you will be able to do it. Ask yourself how much do you want this if you see junky food.
Eat smaller portions.
Drink water when you feel hungry because alot of ppl mistake hunger for thirst.September 16, 2008 at 11:58 pm #22252alexmx
Youre not alone sweetie , believe me, i did not only struggle with the baby fat, but ive suffered from eating disorders since i can remember, i had them through my whole pregnancy and i still suffer from anorexia and bulimia, i gained just 20 pounds while i was pregnant and the last 6 weeks of the pregnancy i started losing weight and it was because of my eating disorders so at ht end i just gained like 16 pounds, when i had my baby i was so worried of all the weight gained, but at times i realized that the most important thing was my baby, she doesnt care how i look, she just loves me the way i am, ive been breastfeeding for 11 months , i lost all the weight in 3 months, and it was just by breastfeeding, but even though i lost all the baby fat, im not the same size i was before, my body is different now, im not 100% happy about how my body looks, but thats because im sick, but there are times i dont care, all i care of is my baby, and besides my boyfriend loves the way i look now, he says i have sexy curves :p…hope my story helps, loves..alexSeptember 17, 2008 at 8:44 am #22256KylieAUS
Hang in there. I know the struggle. I dont even know how heavy i got when i was pregnant because i was too scared to step on the scales. I started a diet about a month ago which is basically healthy low gi foods and have been slowly weaning myself off too many carbs (love potatoes…lol). So far i have lost 7 and a bit lbs since i first stepped on the scales a month ago. It takes time and healthy food. Dont stress about it. Your baby is more important.
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