- This topic has 8 replies, 7 voices, and was last updated by .
November 16, 2011 at 9:41 pm #28400wittyhippie
I chose to abort my child.
that was exactly 16 months ago.
Until then, I have been fine. But now I am freaking out, dealing with depression, all because of this child I never had. Does anyone know what this is like? Please, I need help right now.November 19, 2011 at 4:57 am #28402christyrose
I haven’t been through what you are going through but just wanted to say I am sorry and you can message me if you need someone to talk to. You can call 1800395help or go to optionline.org and they will tell you where a pregnancy center is near you that offers support for woman who have had abortions and some have their own abortion stories too so they can relate.November 19, 2011 at 8:13 am #28403christyrose
I haven’t been through what you are going through but just wanted to say I am sorry and you can message me if you need someone to talk to. You can call 1800395help or go to optionline.org and they will tell you where a pregnancy center is near you that offers support for woman who have had abortions and some have their own abortion stories too so they can relate.January 5, 2012 at 3:20 am #28431painfullysmiling
i know a little of how ur feeling, its been less than a month for me and im experienceing a thing calld post abortion stress symdrom, im depressed, i have nightmares, im angery, best this i found was to go see a counceler and talk to someone… Im sorry for what your going threw.. I know how you feelJanuary 5, 2012 at 5:56 pm #28436Anonymous
Im sorry about everything! I have not had an abortion. I have had a miscarriage, which i know is not the same. But I went through a few of the emotions you are going through right now, and in fact i still deal with them sometimes. I have a few links that might help you out and encourage you through the mourning process. Im going to give you two link I think might be helpful. If you feel you need more info. or more links that may help PLEASE send us a DearBecky letter or email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org 🙂
http://www.rachelsvineyard.org.. This site is a sage place to renew,rebuild and redeem hearts broken by abortion. Confidential and non-judgmental environment where women and men can express their emotions.
and the optionline.org. Most Pregnancy Centers have post abortion classes and counseling. If you go to the site you can find a pregnancy resource center near you! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let me know if you need anything else, or even if you just need to chat!
Hugs to you, Im glad we are here to help!
Teka <3August 1, 2012 at 2:37 pm #28654emmanz
I hope this is not too late…
It’s been almost 2 years since we opted for termination, and please believe me it does get better.
I must admit the issues surrounding my decision & the effect it had on me & my boyfriend were most defiantly not as serve & to be perfectly honest quite mild, although I kept a lot of feelings inside it does get better & easier. We saw a psychologist just to help us learn & help each other when grief did strike us as it was some what unbearable to see my boyfriend upset & in turn for him to see me distort. This week is coming up the anniversary of our “due date” and to help us cope we always do something special, we bought candles each & light them together, no one else knows what these candles are for but us & it give us the opportunity to release & commemorate our feelings.
My question is to you, what feels & issues do you have, is it guilt, or depression, or confusion.
x x Emma.August 17, 2012 at 3:23 pm #28657WasBlindButNowISee
wittyhippie and Painfullysmiling,
I aborted my only child 27 1/2 years ago, and I still have painful times. I remained silent for 23 years and tried to hide my pain from myself and the world. I’m always available if you need to talk. There are some very good abortion recovery programs, and I highly recommend that you both attend one. My favorite is Rachel’s Vineyard (http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/). It is normal to feel depression, guilt, shame, and unworthy of forgiveness and love. First remember that you are not alone in this, and that God’s love is unconditional. My story is shared on the home page “I Was Blind But Now I See”, and also on the Silent No More Awareness website (http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/testimonies/testimony.aspx?ID=2357). With God’s healing grace you will heal. Please feel free to contact me. You arte both in my prayers!December 11, 2012 at 10:42 pm #2874932Hampshire
Go to your doctor and get some counsellingFebruary 14, 2013 at 6:39 pm #28816Meg11
Hey Snicoll11, I am so glad to see that you are sharing your painful story in efforts to reach out to others who share your pain….That is a brave and honorable thing to do….I am so sorry that you still deal with feelings of guilt…If you are interested, you can contact http://optionline.org/ , Enter your postal code into the site and find the closest Pregnancy Help Center near you where you can get FREE and CONFIDENTIAL post abortive counseling….You may find that there is a support group of women that you can bond with and you can all help each other on the path of healing….This is also a great place to contact if you or anyone you know becomes pregnant, they are there to help make sure that you do not struggle to raise a baby alone with no money or help….They offer things like diapers, clothing etc as well as connect people with local resources to help with food, housing, utility bills etc….Keep healing, keep sharing and stay strong….Love Meg
- The forum ‘After the Choice’ is closed to new topics and replies.