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February 14, 2013 at 3:37 pm #28815Anonymous
I had an abortion when I was 18. No one knows except my ex bf whose in jail now.. Not even my family. It’s been a year now and it’s really hard not to think about what my life would be like now if I decided to keep it. I feel so guilty. I always hear my friends talking about how selfish people are when they get abortions and I just have to sit there and keep it all in and try not to cry. I just need to talk to someone about it!!’February 14, 2013 at 6:52 pm #28817Meg11
Hey there, You know what? I used to say the same things….I could NOT believe how someone could abort their child….THEN I found this site, I read the stories, I fell in love with all of you women, those of you who hurt and grieve in secret….I saw a side that I had not seen before, a side of guilt, secret shame, fear of judgement and a side of being betrayed….My heart changed and it changed because of the brave women like yourself who were willing to open their wounded and broken hearts for those of us who cannot relate….I have a love for post abortive women that is not described with words….I wish I could reach through this screen and hug you and hold you and be a friend to you that would make you feel safe and accepted just as you are, broken and beautiful….Although I have not aborted, I did come close and I have so much baggage from my years of sleeping around and living a wretched life of lies, theft and disgusting choices….I know what it is like to feel deep shame, to have people see one thing when they look at me but to hide what is on the inside….I am here for you and I care deeply for you….Please keep being brave, please find someone that you can share with in person….I had a lady recently say something about her kids school, she was upset that so many low income kids went there etc….After being a single mom to two kids for 4 1/2 years and being on state assistance I took great offense to that and I opened my mouth, I was kind in how I said it, but I shared that MY kids used to be the kids she is so insulted by, it shut her up pretty quick and I bet she will be more careful with her words in the future….maybe some of these friends need to hear the broken heart of a post abortive mommy so they can learn some compassion….You have every right to grieve the loss of your baby, you have every right to share your pain without fear of rejection…truth is, some may do that, but not everyone will….your real friends will hold you and let you cry and be willing to step into your shoes and understand….Please…contact, http://optionline.org/ , Enter your postal code into the website and it will give you the contact info for the closest Pregnancy Help Center near you where you can get FREE and CONFIDENTIAL post abortive counseling….I actually went through a local course at my PHC, Just so I could know what it was like to share with women in your shoes….There were some wonderful women in my group, they were different women by the time the class was over, it was 8 weeks, meeting once a week….the bond and love in that group was powerful….I would love to see you get plugged into a similar group and find your freedom to speak and share and release this pain….I hope this gives you some hope and please email me when you just need a friend…Love Meg, firstname.lastname@example.org
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