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January 5, 2007 at 6:08 pm #14272Only18
Hi, im 18 years old and i am engaged to a 19 year old marine. two weeks ago i found out i was pregnant and i am now 6 weeks along. my mom knew i was pregnant before i ever did, and bought me a pregnancy test. once we were certain i was pregnant, the first idea that came out of her mouth was that early abortion is always an option. she said she thought a long time about it and believed that it was ok because i was so early. I guess i trusted her believes because she is my mom and must be right. so i immediately decided that was what i was going to do before i ever considered having a baby. i have talked about having a baby with my fiance once we were married many times. we even came up with named. this was all before i got pregnant of course. now i feel scared and not ready to have a child. a week ago i went to the abortion clinic to get it over with, but they wouldn’t do it because it was to soon to see anything on the ultrasound. i had to reschedule for a week later (tomorrow). i didn’t think about any other option than abortion because i was scared id regret having it. tonight, however i decided to actually think about it. i have read all these posts from girls who aborted and regretted it. and none seem to regret having a child. in 12 hours i am supposed to be in the clinic again for the last time. I’m not sure i can go through with it. i think a week ago i would have been fine, but not now. i think i could be a good mommy. but i don’t know if I’m strong enough to deal with all the responsibility and ostracism. plus I’m only a freshman in college and i need to finish school. anyone have some advice?January 6, 2007 at 7:38 am #14277lisa
Hi – I’m Lisa and I am from the Stand Up Girl website and I am feverishly trying to type this e-mail in the hopes that you will see this,
Please please please – do NOT go for the abortion appointment. Please you will so regret it! I also went in and had an abortion. And to this very day I regret it.
You said that you are about 6 weeks pregnant. I just want to copy a link to one of my favorite photos. It is so amazing and so beautiful at the same time. OK?
Check this out and read what it says on the right side of the photo:
This would be about how far along your baby is. You know what? I know that your mom means well – but really and truthfully, there is NO such thing as an easy abortion. I’m not talking about just the physical part – but the emotional part. You live with the fact that your first baby is … gone. Please know that the only way that you could ever know this pain … is to experience it and I do not want you to experience it. Please reconsder. Come to the website and talk to the other girls that are on here. I bet you get a ton of responses.
Will you let me know what you decide? Please?
Luv LisaJanuary 6, 2007 at 12:20 pm #14284louie
hi lisa ive had an abortion 2 years ago and i want lie to you its hard thing i have already have a child but i new in my heart it was the wrong thing to do but only you will no wat to do all i can say is follow your heart and it will tell you wat 2 doJanuary 6, 2007 at 2:35 pm #14285Kaileyamanda
hey girl! i know that it seems hard… but just because something is hard doesnt make it impossible and the hardest things are the most worth doing. Im only 17 and my daughter is 3 weeks old. i have never been so happy in my life. i have a really strong relationship with my boyfriend, as im sure you do since you are engaged, and that has made things so much easier and amazing. I’m a senior in highschool and i’ll still graduate on time if i work hard. i’m sure you can do college just as well, you may just have to push back a few personal deadlines. seeing your baby on the ultrasound is an absolutely aMaZiNg experience and i think when you see him/her youre going to realize how ALIVE that baby is, even inside you. Youll realize how that helpless little life is so innocent, and so perfect, and NEEDS you. Its hard to hold on, but as so many girls will tell you, its even harder to let go. My road has been difficult but i wouldnt change it for the world. i hope you reconsider- the fact that youre thinking about your child shows what a good mommy you would make. But you know what? Just b/c youre baby isnt out yet he/she is still there and that makes you a mommy! so heres your first chance to be that wonderful mommy for your baby! best of luck to you in whatever you choose!
KaileyJanuary 6, 2007 at 3:33 pm #14286ashmo
my names ashley iam also 18, and married to a serviceman. my husband is 21 and active duty in the army. i just finished up high school, i was so scared when i found out i was pregnant, especially becuz my hubby is stationed in GA and im still living in TX. my parents told me i didnt have a choice, it wasnt a baby yet, etc. etc. but from the moment i saw that faint pink line in the result window, i had already begun to love this new little life inside of me, sure things havent been easy, and let me tell u, walking down the halls of highschool with all eyes on me and the constant judgement wasnt easy. but when my then boyfriend came to tx for my 10 week appt, we heard the babys heartbeat. me, my husband, and even my MOM (who was so against this baby being born) all had tears of joy in our lives. that is a life that u and your man created out of the love and admiration u have for eachother, and what could possibly be more beautiful then that?? ive barely seen my husband, just TWICE during my whole pregnancy, but when i feel my daughter, roll around in me, stretch, and get the hiccups i dont regret my decision for a SECOND. becuz its the most amazing thing in the world. im due in 3 weeks, and i cant wait to meet my daughter. all i have to say is trust in God. everything happens for a reason, and this baby has a purpose. my husband is also going to iraq in september of next year. but no matter how hard things get, i will always have my beautiful daughter to remind me what makes life worth living. iam SO happy i gave her life and wont have to live my days out just wondering, was it a boy or girl? what did he or she look like? what wuld they have grown up to be? because in a few short weeks, my questions will be answered. and i cant wait to be a mommy and help her grow up. =) keep your head up girl, its always scary at the beginning but this too shall pass and ull wind up happier than ever that u made the right decision!!!
keep me updated please!January 6, 2007 at 4:40 pm #14287goodluckyall
As I’ve said many times before, abortion is not the only alternative to parenting. There’s always adoption. Yes, it would be hard to let go of a child you’ve grown inside your body, but how could that be any more difficult than knowing you’ve ended the life of a child? Please give your baby the chance to live, even if it means you aren’t the one parenting it. None of us asks to be conceived and yet, we’re here because our mothers allowed us that same chance.January 6, 2007 at 4:57 pm #14288Lady_c
Well, i in school…and i do not plan to drop out..it will be hard but i want my baby. I cannot and will not kill or loose another baby. it will work out!January 13, 2007 at 2:55 am #14406monkeygirl
My mom wants me to give up my baby…but I am not sure if I want that. I mean I know it will be hard but I am like you I can’t and woint kill or loose another baby. Everything happens for a reason.January 13, 2007 at 12:26 pm #14433Babygurl801d
if you didnt think much about it then, by this time you still got many options your still early in pregnancy, and your also still pregnant.. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.. SAY THAT YOU ENGAGED. HAPPEND FOR A REASON.. A UNPLANNED PREGNANCY HAPPEND FOR A REASON… AND THEM NOT BEING ABLE TO SEE THE BABY ON THE ULTRASOUND HAPPEND FOR A REASON.. YOU GETTING ADVICE HAPPEND FOR A REASON.. EXACTLY WHAT YOU SAID.. PEOPLE USUALLY REGRET ABORTIONS, BUT NEVER REALLY REGRET BABIES.. ONCE YOU FEEL YOUR CHILD MOVE. SEE A KICK ON THE SCEEN. GET THEIR FIRST PICS (ULTRA SOUND) YOU FALL. HEAR THE HEARTBEAT AND YOUR HOOKED.. WELL WITH ME THATS HOW IT WAS/IS. I HATE ABORTION, STAND 100 PERCENT AGAINST IT… THAT IS FOR MYSELF. YOU ARE OLDER THAN ME.. AND MORE CAPABLE THAN I AM, AND I AM GOING THROUGH WITH HAVING A BABY.. YOUR FIANCE IS A MARINE. THE ONYL DIFFERENCE ABOUT HAVING A FAMILY NOW OR LATER IS YOUR STARTING A FAMILLY A LIL BIT EARLIER…THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT..January 15, 2007 at 2:40 am #14466Deidre
This is YOUR decision. Whatever you do, you WILL regret it if it’s what someone else told you to do. This needs to be YOUR decision. I cannot stress this enough. I was coerced into abortion by my boyfriend and my dad. At the time I thought I was doing the right thing but I had already bonded with my embryo and the idea of being a mom of two. So when I had the abortion it had really hard consequences that I did not expect. It wasn’t really my "choice." I had only done it to appease my father and boyfriend. I am also in college and it can be done, you just have to work with what you can get. Are you in community college or a 4 year? My community college has all sorts of women’s programs for students with children, and even if you don’t have something like that it isn’t all that hard to find a babysitter or work your classes around times when your husband could watch over the baby. I’ve done it, so I have no doubt others’ can to. There’s absolutely no reason to have to choose between your child and your career. It’s not fair to you or your family! Overall, this is YOUR decision. Just make sure you aren’t being coerced by anyone, and that includes societies pressures to choose your career over family. It’s a bunch of bull! I hope you are all right. Update us when you can.January 15, 2007 at 10:31 am #14472angel_gal84
havent been on hear for a while so can somebody please tell me if this girl had her abortion? (hope not!!!!)
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