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August 21, 2006 at 4:55 pm #11582anonymouslyscared
Hello everyone. Okay, I wrote a while back that I might be pregnant… well, I am! I had to tell my mother and father, and they freaked. My mom yelled and told me I betrayed her trust, and wanted to send me to live with my grandmother. My father got her to change her mind. They don’t support it at all… and my mother says she wants me to put it up for adoption, since she knows I’m against abortion. I don’t want to though. I’m 16, and I know it’s hard to be a mother. I don’t even know where to begin. I told my boyfriend, and he told me he loved me, and said he’d do everything he could to help me, and two hours later he had a new job at a convenient store paying 9.50 and hour. I know that’s not a wonderful amount of money, but it’s a start. His parents were much more understanding than mine. They said they’d help with some of the costs, and his mother was even kind of excited. Can someone please tell me what to expect? Symptom wise and money wise?August 22, 2006 at 9:30 am #11584Kaileyamanda
its great that you have good support even if it is just from one side. your parents will probably come around in time. my dad fReAkEd and he’s fine now. about what to expect- everyone has different symptoms. maybe you’ll be missed by morning sickness and even if you get it a some girls dont get it bad. at 7 weeks you may not have any or many symptoms- most teen girls dont start showing until farther along but its diff for everyone. MAKE SURE YOU SEE A DOCTOR SOON! they can tell you everything! Money wise- it takes a whooole lot of money for a baby. you have to get basic needs and all- do you have a place for you guys to stay? just wait out for your parents b/c they love you no matter what and no matter what they say they are going to want to be part of their grandchild and daughter’s life. good luck girl and lots of love!September 1, 2006 at 5:00 am #11655Anonymous
When I read your story it reminded me of a friend that my sister helped out. My sister had her first baby when she was 18. About 4 years later her friend found out she was pregnant and was 17. Her parents both freaked out and told her they wanted her to have an abortion and that they wouldn’t support her. My sister told her that she needed to have this baby and do the right thing. It was hard for her but she is doing great and everything has worked out for the best. Her mother now calls and thanks my sister for saving her grandchilds life. So stay strong they will come around. It may not seem like it now, but you are doing the right thing. God will bless you for making the right decision. Good luck and let me know if you ever need to talk!September 6, 2006 at 4:28 am #11685Anonymous
Hi girls! I’m 7weeks pregnant now too but I wanted to post here to give you all some encouragment! I got pregnant when I was seventeen with my first baby and though it wasw awkward with my, chruch going, family at first eventually things all worked out and my family got totally excited about the life I would be brining in to the world soon.
I encourage you to be independent (don’t rely on the guy who got you pregnant because well young guys are just a little flip floppy and you never know which way he’ll turn but you will always be the mommy of your baby and the one making the choices) Be strong, make good desciouns and prove society wrong ! By that I mean society thinks of young moms as being welfare moms who don’t parent their children correctly and don’t truly make good choices for their children or themselves BUT I say you can be the mom you want to be and I encourage you to do so! You can also go on and be very successful! I am now 21, almost 22, and married (to a wonderful man who adopted my son) and pregnant with "our" first baby 🙂 I graduated college this year and have a great degree in health if I need to fall back on it. Life is good … God is good … You can all do what you want as long as you believe in yourself! Good Luck Girls!September 6, 2006 at 2:09 pm #11688BeckMum2Jassie
My mother told me I was stupid, when I told her I was pregnant when I was 16. It took her a long time to realise that I was having this baby, and she eventually came around. My little girl is now nearly 3, and I dont regret it at all. My mother also asked me to put her up for adoption, there was no way I could do it…September 13, 2006 at 9:57 am #11722Anonymous
Well, I am doing a paper for College on abortion that is how I came upon this site. I am 29 years old and my daughter is now 10.
Let me just say that I was on my own at your age and it was pretty difficult but you just can’t look at it that way. You must realize that it is no longer about you anymore that you are a mother now and before the birth of your child you need to look at what you can do to better the life of you and your child. Finish school and continue your education it is very, very, important. It is not impossible to give your child all that you would like, it is pretty much in the way that you plan things from now on. You will grow-up fast! Never regret! Everything that happens is for some purpose. Don’t be scared to approach anything that requires a Yes or No answer. It can only be a yes or no!
From your statement you seem to be a very nice person and asking for suggestions is always a good thing. Keep Your head up!!!
Jetta SernaSeptember 15, 2006 at 3:31 pm #11758anonymouslyscared
Hey everyone. Just thought I would give you an update. I am now 11 weeks pregnant and not really looking forward to it. I’ve decided to put my baby up for adoption because I don’t believe I would be capable of raising it. I want my baby to have a good life with wonderful and responsible parents. I get to choose who they are too! It will be a closed until 18 adotpion. That means that when my baby turns 18, my information is released to them so that they may come and find me!
MauiSeptember 17, 2006 at 3:05 pm #11788Anonymous
I don’t feel anyone could raise a baby better than it’s own mother. I understand you’re 16 and your mom is soo against it. I can completely understand not being ready but who is ready? You may have an idea of what’s ahead but you’ll never know until you’re going through it. Think of your child and what S/He’ll have to go through emotionally; they may feel abandonment. I’ve always felt if you were GROWN enough to have relations, you should be just as GROWN to deal with anything that may come from it; including a baby. I’m not trying to preach or be judgemental but your baby won’t be the only one dealing with this. You’ll think of that baby every hour of every day. Why make a decision that both of you won’t benefit from emotionally? Yes, don’t get me wrong your baby will be well taken care of financially but when S/He’s older they won’t remember the fancy crib and expensive clothing. They won’t see the sacrifice you made as a benefit. They’ll take it as you didn’t want them. And if you have other kids later on they may even resent you.September 18, 2006 at 1:20 pm #11795lissy012207
i was 7 weeks prego when i found out. lol money wise, id look for hand-me-downs from people that just had babies n stuff. i never even knew what the salvation army was before i was prego. now, thats where i get most of my baby stuff. my mom bought me $400 worth of baby stuff at walmart n i still have basically nothing. i cant work b/c of my arm (i have a story posted, i dont feel like typing the story again lol)and my bf works at movie gallery for $5.40 an hour so consider your bf lucky lol. money will be really tight and youll prolly have to get clothes at walmart instead of ambercrombie. but itll be worth it. so i hear.. lol im 5 1/2 months prego. i didnt really get that many symptoms until about 17 weeks. youll get cramps and occasional puke. its different for everyone. i hope it works out for you! im 16 also and my mom trys to help and the rest of my family disowned me. i havent talked to any of them for about 3 1/2 months. idc though. its not like they were there for me before anyway 🙂September 25, 2006 at 12:12 pm #11943Miss Boop
That’s brilliant!!!! Congrates to you and your growing family!!! I just know that this baby will be loved to no end!! Well the best way to find out about symptoms or finances is to go to your local health department, search local or even national pregnancy sites and help lines, try to get a job at a store around your 8th or 9th month and just keep updating them until you get hired at one, also look in to childcare as much as you can. I have worked at in home day cares and in a child care center and yes they are very different. Family members may be convenient but they can also be an inconvenience. Register anywhere you can to get prenatal, pregnancy, parenting, relationship advice, help, tips, coupons, etc. Make sure you weigh all of the pros and cons of everything that you do and everything that you consider. Have faith and stay strong… GOOD LUCK and again CONGRATES!!! If you need anymore help or advice be sure to reply.
~*~SOON-TO-BE MOMMY OF A BEAUTIFUL BABY BOY!!!~*~September 26, 2006 at 1:21 am #11952Anonymous
oh my god..am 13 and i think im pregnant !! :'(
me and my boyfriend had sex on sunday night and the condom fell off without us knowing !! he cumed and everything please help me !! :'(:(September 27, 2006 at 3:10 pm #11986lissy012207
Just because the condom fell off doesn’t mean youre pregnant. You could be or you could not be. The important thing is that about 3 weeks after you that happened, get a pregnancy test and find out. How old is your boyfriend? I know I’m only almost 17 and 6 months pregnant, but my lil brother is 13 and if i caught him having sex, id probably kill him lol thats y i asked how old ur bf is cuz i kno my lil bro didn’t even hit puberty yet lolSeptember 29, 2006 at 1:57 am #12001Anonymous
I was 16 when I had my son. I was not working I was to sick but the babys dad was working for $9.50hr.It was not easy but we made it work our parents were not happy at all. We save our money from the time we found out and got our onw place. We got alot off baby stuff from friends and family. Our son was born on march 20 2003. And it was the best dat of my life. It was worth everything that I went through when I saw his face.
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