I am 3 months pregnant by a rape. (who "was" actually my boyfriend) We were on a trip with my youth group and I had a really strange reaction to one of my motion sickness pills so I was nocked out. He knows and wants to get married and I know that I am not ready for that. Not to mention the fact that I don’t think that I want him anymore! :angry: I don’t want an abortion but my parents are going to kill me when they find out. He will kill me if I get an abortion. I am a christain and I don’t want everyone to know about it. It isn’t my first time of being raped but it is my first pregnancy and I don’t know what to do. :huh:
I’m so sorry that that happend to you. But, don’t punish your child for what he did. There are so many options. If you feel you aren’t ready for a baby, you could give it up for adoption. Being a parent requires alot of love, but it takes a great deal of love to give up your child so it can have a better life. I have two children and I’m nineteen. It has been really hard, and it was extremely hard to tell everyone, but, I have never regretted having my babies, they’re the best things that have ever happend to me. So, if you really think you can’t do it, you need to know that there are other options that abortion, and, raising your child can be the happiest, and hardest thing, that you could ever do.
If you were raped there is no reason that your family should hold the pregnancy against you! True Christians would be less concerned with external appearances of impropriety presented by the pregnancy and would "judge not lest ye be judged". You will need support from your family for this pregnancy. It will also help you to deal with feelings of betrayal and violation if you talk to your family and friends about the rapes instead of keeping it bottled up and secret. Please don’t have an abortion out of fear.
As far as your relationship with the father, it would take a lot to rebuild trust after he raped you (if ever)! You might consider talking to a counselor to help you work through your feelings. Best wishes,
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