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March 27, 2009 at 9:36 pm #24650sophia roses mummy
re post from my forum topic mum & dad :(UPDATE
things have got so out of hand and its breaking my heart.
my mum told me i should have my 2nd abortion
and me and my bf(ollie) dont want to but i dont kno how much more i can take!
1 min my mums really happy for me the next shes saying to my dad and saying it to me too that i should have a abortion of my baby and theres just no way i can do that again it crushed me the first time i was forced to make that choice.:unsure:
im 1month and 1 week pregnant and im so worried and confuesd on what to do:(
please help i really need some advice
thankyou gabby xxxxMarch 28, 2009 at 9:57 am #24653Ashley0912
I just wanted to say that God gives you a concience for a reason. The reason that you have these feelings about not wanting to go through this again is because deep down you know it is wrong. My parents actually had me when my mom was 16 and my dad was 17. I am now 17 years old, and so grateful that my mom gave me life. Your baby would feel the same way as well. Everyday people regret past abortions, but you never hear of people who regret having their baby. Of course your life becomes more complicated, but the joy that this baby can bring to your life will definately outway the bad. Even if you don’t have a plan for you and this baby, God does and he will never leave you hanging. And as for your mom, she will regret ever telling you to abort that baby as soon as she sees his or her face.
God bless! I hope all goes well for you, and that you stay strong in standing up for how you are feeling. Don’t let your mom push you into doing anything that you don’t want to do. I will definately be praying for you!
-AshleyMarch 28, 2009 at 11:24 am #24657Evangeline
Hey hunny bunch,
I wish I could just give you a big hug right now. I’m so sorry that yr parents are putting the two of you in this situation again, I really can’t believe that they could be so cruel, especially since they’ve seen what it’s done to you in the past.
You and Ollie need to stand up to them and speak out about your decision to keep this baby. you’re the only voice that he/she has for the next 8 months… please don’t be silent.
You know how much pain and regret yr still feeling from aborting Sasha-Lou, please don’t knowingly do the same thing to yourself, your relationship and your baby. You made a mistake last time… this time it’ll be a conscious decision to murder your child and put yrself through the sam agony.
Gabby you don’t deserve to feel all of this hurt and you don’t need to. Please don’t do it again. It’s going to be so much harder to live with yourself. I know I’m the last one to speak about getting yr life on track, because I fall off the wagon every other week, but I’ve lost two children… you don’t just wake up and get over it, things don’t magickly go back to normal and you don’t smile like in a planned parenthood advertisement…. Please, for the sake of your sanity, DON’T!!!!
I know that ultimatly the decision is yours, but you know better than last time. Ollie also needs to stand up to your parents. I know it’s so difficult at this age because yr so young and everything’s so uncertain, but this is your baby, it’s a living breathing human being… Google pregnancy week bt week and see how yr baby’s developd already… it’s not just tissue.
You’ve gotten the seond chance that oso many of us crave, please don’t let them take this from you and don’t let them take away yr baby’s right to live.
I’m always here if you need to talk and if I’m not online leave me a message and I will get back to you.
I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, I hope that you and Ollie find the courage to stand up for your baby.
peace and light,
Eva xoxoxMarch 29, 2009 at 5:06 am #24658myangelsinheaven
First of all, congratulations on getting this far with your pregnancy. Rejoice in the life that’s within you. It is a BLESSING!!!
As a mother of teen daughters, I would love to walk over to your house right now and invite your mother to a cup of tea.;) Oh, how I wish I was in the UK. Prayer is pretty powerful, so for now I’ll have to turn to that instead.
I want to encourage you sweetheart to find some courage inside to stand up to your parents and make a FINAL stand on this issue. You and Ollie together need to defend your baby together, as a team, as a muture couple who are willing to take responsibility for raising their baby. Unless you do, I’m afraid your mother may feel she has to take the lead on the decision.
But I want you to think about something….in what negative way will your decision with Ollie to keep this baby effect your mother’s life?? How will this be a terrible thing??? Where can she prove that having another abortion is the right choice??? Which decision is morally and ethically sound?? MURDER< OR < LIFE!!! Can she say to you..."Life will be much better for you if you kill another baby. Your future will just be wide open from then on!!" Not to mention what it has done to you!!! I can't believe that she would want to watch you go through the pain, and grief again. Ask her to think about these things Gabby....talk to your mother seriously. Ask her how she could live knowing that two of her grandbabies have died because of her influence. Parents do NOT make good decisions all the time. Because she is your mother, (I cannot be disrespectful, but only in defense of LIFE), does not mean that if she is sinning you have to obey her. You are to honor your father and mother at all times, unless they are sinning and asking you to sin. Do not let her break your courage down, do not let her make you feel less than worthy to have your baby. Do not let her convince you to start thinking about abortion again........fight that with everything you have. You have paid your price with the tears you have shed over the death of Sasha Lou. You will be a wonderful mum!!!!! I am praying very hard for your situation. May God watch over you and your unborn baby and keep all harm from the both of you as you try to do what is right. Peace of Christ, myangelsinheavenMarch 29, 2009 at 7:07 pm #24661sophia roses mummy
hi thankyou so much for all the advice!
i just feel so lost and my mum’s putting more and more pressure onto me 🙁
i just dont kno what to say to her anymore 🙁
bella xxMarch 30, 2009 at 6:57 am #24664myangelsinheaven
I can understand how you’re feeling….I have had to respectfully disagree with my parents as well. In the face of what is true, just, and morally wrong…..you have an obligation to stand up to her. I know there are a lot of things being suggested to you.. a lot of loving advice comming at you constantly, and when you’re the one in the situation it’s extremely hard to seperate your emotions for everyone involved, from the choices that have to be made and kept strictly seperate; in which its results will be for the GREATER GOOD!!
God, the Lord of life, has entrusted to us the mission of safeguarding life, and we must carry it out in a manner worthy of ourselves. Life must be protected with the utmost care from the moment of conception; abortion is an abominable crime. Any cooperation in an abortion constitutes a grave offense. (death of your own soul)
As long as a child lives at home with his parents, the child should obey his parents in all that they ask of him when it is for his good or that of the family. But if a child is convinced in conscience that it would be morally wrong to obey a particular order, he must not do so.
If you feel that you cannot talk to your mother with an adament and firm resolve NOT to abort this baby, you need help!! Someone needs to help mediate for you so that you have a fair chance. Even if you have to print out some information for her…..from this website, or other resource sites that will help her understand the crime she is asking you to be involved in again. Print out some of our responses to you, and just cut off anyone’s names you don’t want to reveal….show her pict’s of aborted babies and let her see for herself. Gabby, you must fight or the death of Sasha Lou and all you’ve gone through will be in vain.
We can only do so much through the computer, you have to be the one to fight the battle. Read over everyone’s replies and keep those positive messages in your mind. Print them out and keep them with you, whatever it takes!!
I pray God will keep you and your baby from any harm.
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