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Just found out and scared to death

  • sara
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11 years 8 months ago #1 by sara
sara replied the topic: Re:Just found out and scared to death
Hey girl,

I'm 22--so not far from you. I've been scared like you before and I have friends in that situation. I come from the conservative Christian family too, so I know what you mean when you feel you can't tell them. To be Christian though means that forgiveness and love and support are necessary and given out freely. Besides, you're not giving yourself enough credit here. You are old enough to be a decent mom. You're getting married anyways. Yes it would be hectic and rough to go through with this, but the hard part only lasts for a little while. Your family will take one look at your child when he/she is born and I promise they won't be able to show anything except love. On the other hand, you seem to think that an abortion will keep you from having to go through the pain/horror/disappointment/anger around you when everyone finds out you are pregnant. But the emotions you experience for the rest of your life will be more painful. Everytime you look at the future children you and your fiance have, you will remember that there is one more. You will feel guilty for not letting them know their big bro/sis. You will remember the day you had your abortion, and every year, you will relive it. That is much less preferable than celebrating a birthday every year. You are in an adult situation and so you have to act like an adult here. It is your DUTY to do what is best for everyone involved--that includes your baby. If that means adoption, then do that, but don't make your child suffer because you made the wrong decision. Be a mother--do what is good for your child too. I know I don't know you, but the fact that you are on this site tells me you can choose the right decision! I'll be praying for you!!

love, sara

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11 years 8 months ago #2 by Calli
Calli replied the topic: Re:Just found out and scared to death
Don't have an abortion....when your parents find out about it, and they most likely will, they will be even madder!!!! You just can't have an abortion, its killing another life. You can put the baby up for adoption or anything just don't kill your baby. Think about it...your mom didn't kill you!

Calli

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11 years 9 months ago #3 by meghan
meghan replied the topic: Re:Just found out and scared to death
i was absolutly positive that my parents would kick me out, disown and id be on my own. they didnt do either. my mom watches my daughter while i go to school and work. theyll be disappointed-theres no way around that but when they see that little face-or even just the gray blur on the ultrasound theyll fall in love. in the end itll be all worth it. itll be okay in the end and if its not ok its not the end.

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11 years 9 months ago #4 by Hazeleyez
Hazeleyez replied the topic: Re:Just found out and scared to death
Its your body and u can do what u want to do but think about how bad you will feel and the regret u would have from getting a abortion..... Just think.

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11 years 9 months ago #5 by xbadxmonkeyx
xbadxmonkeyx replied the topic: Re:Just found out and scared to death
I just found out im pregnant. I am definately pro life but the thought iof abortion has crossed my mind more that 100 times in the past 3 days. i dont know how to tell my family or when. i know my family won't be supportive but im hoping they dont judge me. honestly. i think abortion is wrong. i feel i made this mistake, and i should live with it. as should you. as harsh as that sounds. its not fair to your unborn child who wasnt even given a chance to succeed. what if your parents had an abortion? just some things that ive been thinking about.

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11 years 9 months ago #6 by aubree
aubree replied the topic: Re:Just found out and scared to death
i was 20years old when i found out i was pregnant . i was scared i also wanted to have a abortion . telling my dad was a scary thing , he wanted me to wait until i was married to have a baby . i promised him i would wait . well i ended up telling him it was hard at first he was soooo disapointed in me and i felt like shit for hurting him . i started looking up pictures of aborted fetus's on the net it was so sad all these babies killed cuz they where not wanted . im totally against abortion now . i look at my nine month old baby boy and get mad i ever thought of doing it .everything is fine now and my dad loves his grandson so much . please think about this . dont rush into it . if u dont want the baby give it to some one else that cant have children , at least give the baby a chance at life

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