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I need so advice

  • Alesha
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11 years 10 months ago #1 by Alesha
Alesha replied the topic: Re:I need so advice
Hey! i'm in the same situation as you are as well! your not alone! i have been with my bf for 2 months and i'm almost 18 and we decided to keep our baby. just wanted to say that u are not alone

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11 years 11 months ago #2 by ZELLBELL
ZELLBELL replied the topic: Re:I need so advice
I KNOW HOW U FEEL I THINK IM PREGNANT IM ALMOST A 100% PERCENT SURE BUT ME AND MY BF HAVE ONLY BEEN TOGETHER ALMOST 2 MONTHS BUT WE WERE FRIENDS B4 THAT BUT I HAD A BF WHO I WAS WITH FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS AND IF I AM PREG I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW I M GOIN TO TELL MY FAMILY ... BUT I JUST WANT TO TELL YOU UR NOT ALONE

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12 years 3 weeks ago #3 by sara
sara replied the topic: Re:I need so advice
Heyy!!!! Wow you are exactly where I was almost 2 years ago now. I got pregnant less than a month into a relationship and found out when we were about a month and a half into the relationship. My daughter's father didn't stick around but guess what?!!! It's OKAY!!! She is my motivation in life. I too am going back to school and for single mom's there is unlimited financial aid, student loans, and grants!!!! You can get paid to go to school!!! And everytime I look at my daughter I know I have to finish that homework or go to that class just so I can provide a future for her. Don't look at a child in a financial sense. That baby is here whether it was planned or not and its a gift!!! Now you have a reason to work for an A rather than a B or work that overtime!!! Best of luck and let me know what happens!!!
~Sara

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12 years 3 weeks ago #4 by Valerie
Valerie replied the topic: Re:I need so advice
This is terribly embarrasing, i was in the middle of my entry when I hit the enter button and it sent...

So anyway, this is the rest of my entry.

There were many times during my pregnancy when I wondered if God had made a mistake sending me a baby in what was surely the worst period of my life. There was even an episode when I could not longer take the abuse and made an appointment to see the doctor for an abortion the next day. Ironically, a few mins after I made that appointment, I felt my baby move. That changed my decision forever. Though I con't to suffer abuse under my husband for the next three years, I will NEVER regret having a baby with him and I will NEVER regret choosing to keep my son.

Today, my beautiful son is almost 10 years old. It has an eventful ten year journey to where we are now, and as promised by my ex-husband, after I filed for divorce, he engaged me in a long and ugly custody battle in which I lost care an control of my son to him due to religious reasons (My son and my husband are the same religion). I only see my son on the weekends but we are very very close.

Many people have asked me why I didn't abort my baby then and leave my ex-husband then and start life anew. My answer to them now is \"God doesn't make mistakes and my son is walking proof of that.

Take care and I can only hope that my entry helped..

Yours sincerely,

Valerie

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12 years 4 weeks ago #5 by Chelsea
Chelsea replied the topic: Re:I need so advice
Hey girl. My name is Chelsea. its not the end of the world you know. all you have to do is talk to him, give him a chance, dont just put him out because of all the other men in the world. ask him why he thinks you should have it. make sure he understand that if you do decide to have the baby it cannot be for any selfish reasons... alot of things go into having a baby. you know how they say you can never understand it until you have lived it, thats for real how it is. i have a 15 month old daughter. i was 15 when i got pregnant. i believe that if you trust him enough and you believe that together you can raise the baby, go for it, but if worst comes to worst you can give the baby up for adoption. Things are so much different than they used to be, now you can actually choose a family for your child to go to. they have homes where you can stay if you need help and everything like that. do what you and your man thinks is right, think of the baby what he/she will not have and what it will have if you raise this baby. dont jump to one decision. you still have nine months. but think hard, that time flys when you are pregnant. Chels.

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12 years 1 month ago #6 by Kit
Kit replied the topic: Re:I need so advice
Liz,

I won't guarantee that the pregnancy won't affect your relationship with your boyfriend, especially if you've only been dating two months so far. Don't rush into or out of this relationship because of the pregnancy.I would see how your relationship goes in the next 9-10 months. Perhaps you will grow closer together and decide to raise the child as a family. Perhaps the relationship won't work out and you could choose to raise the child yourself or to give the child up for adoption. It is a good sign, I'm really glad to hear that your boyfriend is being supportive. That helps a lot. Don't get another abortion, especially since it sounds like you really don't want to have another abortion and you are already thinking about the well being of the baby (by not drinking). Take the relationship one day at a time. I wish you the best.

Kate

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