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Why doesn't it seem real?

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9 years 7 months ago #1 by slbabe8
slbabe8 replied the topic: Re:Why doesn't it seem real?
Don't worry too much about it, I was in complete denial with my first pregnancy.I was 16 and it didn't feel real to me until I was about 7 months.At the beginning I couldn't believe that there was actually a baby growing inside me, so it took awhile for it to seem real.That is common I think so even if you don't feel attached now,as soon as you see your baby it'll be so incredible.I didn't feel that instant bond when my son was born,of coarse I loved him but it was so hard at first.Eventually we developed a very special relationship, so everyone is different so don't stress about it.Everything will work out I promise!

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9 years 7 months ago #2 by insubordinateximpx09
insubordinateximpx09 replied the topic: Re:Why doesn't it seem real?
don't feel too bad about the pregnancy and everything not seeming real...i'm 38 weeks pregnant and i still can't wrap my mind around the fact that i will be someone's mommy very shortly...i already love my son more than anything, but it still feels surreal most of the time...mostly it's because i can't believe i'm actually capable of making this little baby who's already so perfect...

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9 years 7 months ago #3 by xXxZaraxXx
xXxZaraxXx replied the topic: Re:Why doesn't it seem real?
Hey
I felt exactly the same nearly everyday... even wen in labour i cudnt believe that i was actually havin a BABY... i was guna b a MUM!! it seemed jus so unreal n still does sumtyms to be honest.
i look at my daughter sumtyms whos 10 months n think i cant believe ur mine n i grew u etc.. So I wudnt worry to much because your be a great mum + if u find it hard at first dw we all do!!
Hope rest of pregnancy goes ok xxx

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9 years 7 months ago #4 by SarahSmiles
SarahSmiles replied the topic: Re:Why doesn't it seem real?
I'm 36 weeks and it STILL doesn't feel real to me. I just feel fat and uncomfortable. Pregnancy has not been the best experience for me, but I'm sure that once I'm holding that little baby in my arms it'll finally hit me. I love my baby more than the world and if anything happened I don't know how I'll survive - but that doesn't make this whole pregnancy thing any less weird :p
Maybe you'll be like me and wont ever feel comfortable with being pregnant, or maybe you'll wake up one morning and feel like a glowing ball of joy! :cheer:
Either way, I wish you the best of luck!
-Sarah

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9 years 7 months ago #5 by HighDefinitionLove
HighDefinitionLove replied the topic: Re:Why doesn't it seem real?
I had my little girl when I was 15. I couldn't get it through my head that I was pregnant...even up to the birth. And personally, bonding with Rhiannon went really slow for me; I didn't really feel attached until she was about 2 years old! That's a really long time! I mean, sure I loved my child and I was never neglectful in any way...she and I were still attached at the hip and the one day I got an all day break (she was over a year old by then) I was constantly worrying about her and I would even get panicked sometimes. \"OMG where's my kid\" would run through my head about every half hour or so. But I didn't feel BONDED to her until she started to really develop a personality that I felt like I could connect to. It just depends on the mother. Some moms bond with their kid while they're still in the womb, some can't grasp it until they're holding their baby in their arms...others, like me really can't get their head around it for a lot longer. So don't worry, you're going to love your child unconditionally - no matter what. And when you do finally connect with your kid it's a feeling nobody can describe and it will be something you've never felt before. It's worth the wait. Though, I would like to say I am experiencing my second pregnancy (I'm 16 weeks along and just getting my little bump) and I do notice a vast difference in my mindset and acceptance that this will be a baby, and another little person to love. So maybe that gets easier after you have your first kid. Just a theory though! Good luck!

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9 years 7 months ago #6 by KylieAUS
KylieAUS replied the topic: Re:Why doesn't it seem real?
I havent really felt pregnant this time around either. With my daughter i was very aware i was(still, when she was born i was like that thing came outta me??? lol) but this time i had no morning sickness or any other symptoms at all. My belly started to grow fairly quickly, but i didnt really 'feel' pregnant. Still dont and im almost 28wks. I get kicks braxton hicks, backaches and the works at this point, but its still hard to impossible to believe that there is a baby in there.

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