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5 weeks pregnant. Confused.

  • Dee
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12 years 5 months ago #1 by Dee
Dee replied the topic: Re:5 weeks pregnant. Confused.
i just found out last week i'm 5 weeks pregnant as well. just over the past week its amazing how much i'm in love w/this baby. my boyfriend and i freaked out at first, seriously discussed abortion and both admitted we'd never be able to live with ourselves if we aborted our child. i just graduated from college, he never finished, he has a job, i have nothing. we cried and stressed over how we could possibly make this work and at first it seemed that it never would. in just a week we've made changes, i've found 2 job possibilities and we're going to make it. it's going to be super tight, but we're going to. once you make up your mind what you're going to do, you realize that whatever hard work it takes it'll be worth it...i'll keep you in my prayers

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12 years 5 months ago #2 by laughterisagift
laughterisagift replied the topic: Re:5 weeks pregnant. Confused.
DONT get an abortion but always know adoption is an option you could do an open adoption meaning you can still have a relationship with the baby but you wont be living with the baby or caring for her/him.

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12 years 5 months ago #3 by Daisy
Daisy replied the topic: Re:5 weeks pregnant. Confused.

Hi. I'm 21 years old and I have three kids. I had my first when I was 17 and let me tell you it has been hard and sometimes I wonder how different my life would be if I didn't have kids, but I know I could never have had an abortion. I know how you feel about having to depend on other people. The father of my first two children went to prison when they were just 1 1/2 and 6 months and it was so hard b/cuz I had to work and take care of them and sometimes I didn't even have time to take a shower. I always wanted to go to college but I haven't been able to do that either. Sometimes I wish I would've waited, but having my babies was the right thing to do.
Ok, I'm just rambling, but I hope this doesn't just make you think it'll be hard. I love my children even if having them completely changed my life.
I know you may think having an abortion will make you happy, but let me share something else that happened to me. I don't ever talk about it, but I hope it helps you decide to keep your baby.
About two years ago, I got pregnant again. I was so not happy and I even wished I would have a miscarriage and guess what? It happened. you think I would've been glad, right? But I was so crushed. I never thought I would be so sad that something I wanted actually happened, but it was terrible. I blame myself so much even though it wasn't the same as having an abortion. I think it's my fault for even wishing it. I still cry for the babies I'll never have, b/cuz they were twins, girls. It makes me want to cry just writing about it.
Well, I'm gonna stop now b/4 I get really depressed. I hope this helps you think about your choice. It would be hard to keep your baby, but you'll be glad you did. I would give anything to have mine.

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12 years 5 months ago #4 by brownsugarsweetie
brownsugarsweetie replied the topic: Re:5 weeks pregnant. Confused.
you gave me advice so i'll give you some. when you start thinking about having and abortion, just ask yourself one question. would i rather be responsible for ending life or giving it. i trust you to make the right decision, you just need to trust yourself to do the same.


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12 years 5 months ago #5 by Bea
Bea replied the topic: Re:5 weeks pregnant. Confused.
Dear Confused, This is my first time on this site and I was just taken with your posting. I know exactly how you are feeling and would like to share some advice with you - please don't do it! Once upon a time in my life, I was pro choice and felt that women could abort and not think twice about it and move on. I was one of those girls...I have had 3. I was young, confused and angry once, thinking of only myself and that was all that mattered...ME. I never forget what I have done and always regret. I am happily married now and struggling to conceive with my husband - going on 3 years with no luck. Now in this struggle I find I have more health problems down there and may never be able to conceive! The feelings that you could experience by going thru with this are very difficult and something you will never get over. And like me, I reflect now and wonder what chance I will ever have again to be a mother. Abortion is selfish, plain and simple... I agree with the adoption idea. No one is ever ready to be a mother...I have a 3 year old step-son by marriage which I am definitely not ready for, but wouldn't trade it for the world. You have forever to love that baby - which is so much better than wishing you had made a different choice. Take care of yourself, and good luck! You'll be in my thoughts - B

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12 years 5 months ago #6 by neworleansdoula
neworleansdoula replied the topic: Re:5 weeks pregnant. Confused.
Loops, To begin, you've already done the correct thing which is make an appointment with the women's center. They will cover much information with you and will explain the different options you have regarding pregnancy and childbirth. You mentioned that you wanted to keep this baby, but you have nothing. You do have something: a job, going to school, and a miracle growing inside you. There are resources out there to help you with this baby if keeping him or her is your choice. There is also adoption. Don't let anyone make this decision for you. This is your body and your baby. And, you didn't make a mistake. Unplanned pregnancies happen which is why there are plenty of resources available.

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