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Advice for a 33 year old mom of 4!!

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8 years 8 months ago #1 by myangelsinheaven
myangelsinheaven replied the topic: Re:Advice for a 33 year old mom of 4!!
Hi mom of 5!!

I'm sorry but you've been on my mind and I thought I'd just let you know something that came to me while I was at church. You are already loving your new baby whether it's conciensiously or not. Your body is sustaining that baby inside you. Your baby feels your warmth, he/she feels your heart beating, knows the sound of your voice and is thriving inside you. You are ALREADY, a mother of 5!! Motherhood doesn't take place at the moment of birth.......it is at the instant of conception. Do not be afraid. Lean on God to provide you.

my prayers are with you,
myangelsinheaven

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8 years 8 months ago #2 by emeraldforest//myheartbro
emeraldforest//myheartbro replied the topic: Re:Advice for a 33 year old mom of 4!!
Hey Jess, my advice to you would be to please keep your little baby. Your husband will be shocked at first but he will get over it and in time learn to love your little one as much as you do. I can tell already that you love this child, so please, listen to your heart and do what's right by you and God. I agree with Myangel that God will provide you with the love and thing nessesary to raise this child.

take care.
xox Enya

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8 years 8 months ago #3 by jessey223
jessey223 replied the topic: Re:Advice for a 33 year old mom of 4!!
Wow what a surprise.....my advice as a mom of 1 is just to tell your husband know. Sometimes the best things in life are not great news initially but it will be. Keep in mind he too thought your 10 month old was the last baby and he is entitled to be shocked or a little beside himself. He may act differently then you did and you should support him. It takes two to tango and Im sure he will come around and love this child just like all of the others. And money as you well know somehow you make do as you have with the four you have. Somehow it all works out. Take a deep breath and tell him. Best of luck..

Jessica

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8 years 8 months ago #4 by myangelsinheaven
myangelsinheaven replied the topic: Re:Advice for a 33 year old mom of 4!!
Hello,

You can love this child equally as you love your other four and visa versa. This baby will not take away the love you have for your 10 mo old. It will be a different relationship but God doesn't give us just one amount of love to spread to just a certain amount of loved ones...it doesn't work like that. By accepting your baby, He provides you with love as a reward for accepting His blessing....therefore you have more to give to another child. God will not abandon you if you turn to Him in prayer. Tell Him your concerns and worries and He will provide you with what you need. Especially with regards to your husband, I know exactly what you're feeling. I have had to tell my husband numerous times that were expecting another baby, while holding an infant on my lap. But as a married couple you open yourself up to conceiving whether planned or not.....it's God plan that we procreate with our spouse. We tried to avoid getting pregnant so many times.....and not matter what we did, we always got pregnant. With two sets of back to back babies along with some older than them and younger than the other set. It wasn't until we made it up in our minds to turn our life and our marriage over to God and stopped trying to fight his plan for us, that we found peace and acceptance. Whether it was when we were abstinate to avoid pregnancy and ended up conceiving anyway......or, when we tried to conceive and couldn't for a long time. We accepted it as God's plan for us as a married couple.



I'm not sure how old your other children are, but if they are older than 6-7 yrs. then they will be such a great help to mommy and the new baby. They're even strong enough to hold baby on the floor in their lap while mom cooks dinner, or takes a quick shower.

You will find ways to cut corners with meals and clothes. (mine have always shared, and how many outfits do children need anyway?) You're immediate family will love you for your choice to accept life even if they show concern or doubt at first. God finds a way to bring people together and He slowly creeps into our hearts when we witness someone elses selflessness and abundant LOVE!!

Do not be afraid.....God will carry you through your fears, just turn to him. Your husbands human nature may prevent him from rejoicing in this life you and he have created, but only for awhile. God will speak to your husband, as the father of your child and show him the way as well.

I will be praying for you.
God bles,
myangelsinheaven

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8 years 8 months ago #5 by nadza
nadza replied the topic: Re:Advice for a 33 year old mom of 4!!
woah how simmilar can 2 stories be...

im 17 married mom 2 a 13month old, 6months preg wit numb 2, i also found out wen i was 18weeks preg, i also had no symptoms,i also was on birth control (the pill and breastfeedin) and like u i also felt like i would be robbing my (then 10month old) of the attention she deservd plus we are not in the best financial sittuation....
i really dont know wat advice to giv u except that it will be ok, sure he will go a lil nuts wen he hears the news but wats done is done and its no use fighting it, the sooner you both accept it the better, its not like u planned it intentionally, its just destiny, and wen ur husband sees and holds your lil one the day he/she is born, he will know that its worth it, i also think the earlier u tell him the better so that u can make a financial plan like saving more or a extra part time job and another reason u shud get it out in the open is so u can go to the doc n make sure all is well sincing u had complications last time round

best of luck xoxoxo

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8 years 8 months ago #6 by KAGluvme
KAGluvme replied the topic: Re:Advice for a 33 year old mom of 4!!
As a 16 year old, it seems a little strange to be giving a 33 year old advice, but here it goes. Talk to your husband and see what he thinks, you could always put your baby up for adoption. Yea giving up your baby is hard but if you dont have enough money as is it is prob. the best solution. You could talk to your friends and see if they know any one who is trying to have a baby but cant. If you and your husband dont want to give up all rights to your child, you could have an open adoption so you can see your baby as much as the adoptive parents will let you. What ever your choice is make it wisly.

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