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Want to have sex but scard! what do I do??

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9 years 8 months ago #1 by liquidme
liquidme replied the topic: Re:Want to have sex but scard! what do I do??
I stumbled across this post and thought I would add to what Mweber said about cervical cancer.

\"...did you know that one of the causes of cervical cancer is multiple sex partners??\" -Mweber


In fact, scientists say that cervical cancer is caused by these
factors:

Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)
Smoking
Immune system deficiency (such as HIV/AIDS)
Genetics



Simply having multiple partners does not cause cervical cancer. What does cause cervical cancer is HPV. You can acquire the type of HPV that causes cervical cancer by engaging in sex. This is the scary part of HVP:

-Approximately 20 million people are currently infected with HPV. At least 50 percent of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives. By age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have acquired genital HPV infection. About 6.2 million Americans get a new genital HPV infection each year- American Cancer Society


Thats a lot of people! 50 percent of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV at some point in their lives? Wow, scary! Basically, you can get cervical cancer by having sex with one person infected with the right type of HPV, assuming they infect you.

If you see your doctor on a fairly regular basis or go for your yearly or 6 month pelvic exam, I'm sure your doctor has at least mentioned the vaccine for HPV. This vaccine is called Gardasil. Maybe you've seen the commercials on TV with young women chanting \"I wanna be one less! one less!\" They mean, they want to protect themselves from cervical cancer by getting the Gardasil vaccine and being \"one less\" woman to be diagnosed with cervical cancer. Two important things to remember about Gardisil (which your doctor can confirm) is that only women ages 9 to 26 can have the vaccine. Also, Gardasil only protects women from SOME HPV strains.
I hope this helps. :)




Here are my sources:

(The American Cancer Society)
http://www.cancer.org/docroot/CRI/content/CRI_2_4_2X_Do_we_know_what_causes_cervical_cancer_8.asp?rnav=cri


(The Gardasil Website)
http://www.gardasil.com/


(The Centers For Disease Control and Prevention)
http://www.cdc.gov/STD/HPV/STDFact-HPV.htm

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9 years 9 months ago #2 by TitaLuvMayel
TitaLuvMayel replied the topic: Re:Want to have sex but scard! what do I do??
B) Ur virginity is the most important thing youcan give to your husband on your wedding night.!! Trust me, i hope is not late but i do regret it sometimes. But my thing is different. I was kind of sexually abuse by three of my (who i use to consider) my family. That happen when i was & yrs. old. Now i'm 17 yrs. old and i can no longer have sex with anyone. Yeah, my boyfriend told me that when we first had sex i was because i did kind of bleed but not alot! But i'm scared and my point of view is that guys want only sex with the girls!! But like i said again, is because wat happen to me. I always dream of losing my virginity with my husband on my wedding night. It wasn't possible, god knows why. Now my boyfriend tells me that we are going to get married but is not the same. I'm sad.:(

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9 years 10 months ago #3 by MissMyKidz
MissMyKidz replied the topic: Re:Want to have sex but scard! what do I do??
Hey Mairssa,
Treasure your virginity. I lost mine at 16. I had always dreamed of giving it to my husband on our wedding night but since I thought that it had been taken from me when I was little I didn't care. Now it kills me. Save it girl. You won't regret it. It will be the best gift for you and your husband to share on your wedding night. Love you girl, take care. Britnie

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9 years 10 months ago #4 by Meg11
Meg11 replied the topic: Re:Want to have sex but scard! what do I do??
Oh Roxyangel843, your words are so very powerful and truthful, I don't think I have ever heard someone speak of the precious gift of virginity with such right words....You and I both know very well the loss and guilt and the feeling of being used that comes with it but I tell you what...you have been given a wonderful gift of your daughter and also a gift of using your words to encourage others to make better choices...your post really touched my heart and I am so proud of you for being a Stand Up Girl and for making the best out of your circumstances to help others not go in the same direction...You are in my prayers and always remember that God is into restoration...He can heal those wounds and cause you to feel as white as snow and pure in heart....thanks for sharing your heart and I am always here to talk whenever you want someone to relate to...Love Meg

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9 years 10 months ago #5 by alexanders_mama
alexanders_mama replied the topic: Re:Want to have sex but scard! what do I do??
Please don't throw your virginity away lightly.
I regret throwing mine away so lightly, it was with my first boyfriend, but honestly I felt used that night, to him it didn't seem like such a big deal at all.
There is nothing wrong with waiting until marriage to have sex.
It shows you have respect for yourself and your body. I know I was the last one out of my friends to lose mine at 16, but that doesn't mean you have to follow everyone, right?
Just because they've lost theirs doesn't mean we should all rush out and have sex...

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9 years 10 months ago #6 by ericklirios
ericklirios replied the topic: Re:Want to have sex but scard! what do I do??
Hi, Marissa.

If you're scared it indicates that you may not be really ready for it in the first place. You expressed fear that's physical in nature but there are other fears to deal with. Please look at a good many posts on this site to see what sex did to the women here.

You think you're out of the loop being 18 and being a virgin? Celebrate that! You've been stronger than many people and that's something to be proud of. Too many people just succumb to the temptation and don't think twice about it.

Stay a virgin and stay clear away from the problems that come with having sex now. Trust me, the problems of sex outside marriage is not purely connected to age. People even in their twenties and even their thirties have problem with sex if they do it outside of marriage. Heck, even people in marriage have problems with it.

Please ask yourself why you wanna have sex. Yes, it feels really good but so do many other things that lead to trouble. Do you want it to experience it? Do you wanna do it to keep your boyfriend?

Once you experience it, there's no turning back. There was an old Pringle's ad which went, \"Once you pop, you can't stop.\" Sex is like that.

What about keeping your boyfriend? It has been found that women who use sex to keep their boyfriends end up losing them more.

If your boyfriend respects you enough to wait, then he may really be worth your time but if he wants sex more than he wants to protect you, then that may be a bad sign.

Marissa, keep away from sex. It is the door to so many problems especially when sex is seen as just part of being a teenager and not part of marriage and being a parent.

No matter how careful you are, no artificial contraceptive method is full proof and if these do keep you from being pregnant, there are other results affecting your emotional and psychological make-up.

Keep away from sex. Continue to be afraid and realize that you were given that fear by the Lord for a very good reason.

Take care.

Erick

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