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10 years 4 months ago #1 by tashie
tashie replied the topic: Re:Please help!!!
hi there,
i know what you are going through. my partner cheated on me twice. he is a bouncer at clubs and is always around the 'lovely ladies'. he went home with a couple of them.
after the first time i turned a blind eye. i loved him. he promised me he had changed. itook him back. the second time was horrible. guys like that dont change. these are the two I KNOW ABOUT let alone the ones i dont.

i stayed with my partner for 3 years. i was an idiot for doing so, but i did. what pushed me over the line was that when i was in labour with our son (our second baby) he was on the phone with his mistress!!!! please dont put yourself through the heartache i did. you CAN do it alone. get support from family and friends. keep yourself busy and you will be ok. dont put yourself in an unhappy environment, remember.... if ur not happy, ur baby is not happy.

i am now with the most wonderful man ever. he cares for me and my kids so well. there is a guy out there for you who will treat you right., u deserve it.

one other thing i wanted to add....
my main philosophy for a relationship is if there is no trust then there is no relationship. my relationship got to thepoint where i couldnt trust him to go to work and come home of an evening. if you cant trust ur fella, dont put urself in the position of stressing where he is and what he is doing all the time. relax and break it off.

take care, good luck and let me know what happens.

tashie

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10 years 4 months ago #2 by mommy6
mommy6 replied the topic: Re:Please help!!!
well hon your heart is going to hurt cause you trusted him n it will be hard to trust another man again dont do it dont take him back cause if he did it twice he will do it again hes a pig sorry. youll be ok it will take time but def let him be around to help the baby you dont need to be with him to have help. youll find a good non chating man one day it will take time but it will happen theres good men out there.congrats on your baby n dont answer the phone everytime he calls let him suffer make him know hes done .good luck

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10 years 4 months ago #3 by Young mum 2 be
Young mum 2 be replied the topic: Re:Please help!!!
Sorry 2 say but once a cheater always a cheater

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10 years 4 months ago #4 by 16anddntfeellikeit
16anddntfeellikeit replied the topic: Re:Please help!!!
I NO HOW U FEEL AND ONCE SUM 1 MAKES U LOSE TRUST IN THEM ITS HARD 2 GET IT BACK BUT IF U FEEL U CAN WORK IT OUT U TRY AND IF U DNT U BOTH B GUD PARENTS AND DNT LET IT EFFECT THE CHILD

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10 years 4 months ago #5 by lula
lula replied the topic: Re:Please help!!!
my mom always said, you can't make a leopard change it's spots. just because you love someone doesn't mean you should be with them. trust me, you will love again, and after having your baby you will see that you need to consider what's best for the both of you. being a role model is real now. you don't want your child seeing you jerked around by this guy. it's not worth it. protect your child from witnessing this jerk and create a civil and mature relationship, based on one and only one mutual interest -- the child. that's it.

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10 years 4 months ago #6 by LillieAunas_Mommy!
LillieAunas_Mommy! replied the topic: Re:Please help!!!
Congradulations on the baby. This might not sound like advice to you but just do what you think is best. Personaly I wouldn't give him another chance he ruined that the 2nd time he cheated. He can always be there for the 2 of you and he can always be the father figure but that doesn't mean you have to be with him. Do what your heart tells you.
Kaitlin

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