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his mind is made up

10 years 8 months ago #1 by MrsTWalsh
MrsTWalsh replied the topic: Re:his mind is made up
If you want this baby , you should keep it. I think that very few people have planned for a baby or are financially prepared. Babies are generally surprises. Even if your boyfriend choses not to be involved, you can do it. There are alot of programs out there to help. Also, your parents may surprise you and they can be an awesome support system. Congrats!

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10 years 8 months ago #2 by lolajessup
lolajessup replied the topic: Re:his mind is made up
a little update from me... i wanted to thank you girls so much. you are all such an inspiration. your words and advise have gotten me able to let ym boyfriend know i want to keep this baby whether he helps me or not. i want him there, but i told him it was his decision, i wasnt going to MAKE him stay. his mom wants us to keep it in the family, and i know my mom would say the same thing. the best option really is to keep this baby, or else our family will have to adopt it, and i know that would cause more problems than us keeping it. i dont want to let my family down again. i havent finished college, and my bf thinks i wont be able to. i told him about all the stong women on here who didnt have to give up their dreams. i will show him. i will show my family. i will show everyone!!!! i am not going to let this get me down. i need to step up and make this work. i am going to give my baby the best i can, no matter how hard it will be. thanks again ladies!!! much love, Laura

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10 years 8 months ago #3 by mummy2addyson
mummy2addyson replied the topic: Re:his mind is made up
Dont worry about telling your mom. seriously she may get angry to start off with (she may surprise you and not get angry at all) but after a little while she will come around. i was so scared to tell my mum and she didnt talk to me for like 2 months but now she is the best nana ever! dont let it stress you out because it will stress out your little bean too. if your bf doesnt want to be involved, then thats up to him. hes just going to miss out on the great stuff your little one will do. Its great you have a supportive family, that can help alot. Plus i know what you mean about money issues, i personally am on a benefit for single moms, but as soon as Addyson is old enough im going to start working part time. so there is always help from the government too if you need it. You dont have to make your bf come around to the idea of having a baby. He will either be a man about it and support you or leave. and if he leaves he wasnt worth it anyways. Dont let him pressure you into doing anything you dont want to (abortion or adoption) you are the mum, you are the one who gets to grow your little bean for 10months, you should be able to decide how you want to deal with things. i hope i helped a little :) and remember... keep smiling, you have been blessed with a child, knowing that will make you smile now, and once they are born, they will continue to make you smile with all the beautiful things they do :)

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10 years 8 months ago #4 by Meg11
Meg11 replied the topic: Re:his mind is made up
I completly agree with all the other ladies. Thank you for choosing life. There are so many recources out there to help you be a parent. I have never felt bad for receiving food stamps because I was always working and paying my taxes. I put in there fore I received what I needed. Now that I am married I no longer receive food stamps because the Lord has brought me new provision. Dont let anyone put you down for wanting to keep the baby or for using the recources you might have to to keep your head above water. Being a mom is wonderful but make sure that you learn from this situation. In most cases I have heard of a Husband rarely asks his wife to abort and would most likely not want to put the child up for adoption. There fore I would encourage you to stand on the truth and not put yourself into a position that could get you preg again untill your married. If a man wont marry you before you have sex with him then in MOST cases (not all) he wont stand by you through the hard times. After 10 yrs of being sexually active and 2 kids later I made that choice. I went through both pregnancies on my own ( 2 diff dads) at that point I decided never again. I kept both of my children and spent 4 yrs as a single parent. I am now married to a man that I did not have sex with untill our wedding night and I know we will both rejoice when we find out that Im pregnant. I hope and pray that you will join me in having an awesome testimony some day and that if this man truly loves you he will marry you or that single parent hood will strengthen you as much as it did me :) love and God bless Meg

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10 years 8 months ago #5 by bweber
bweber replied the topic: Re:his mind is made up
don't let him guilt you into an abortion or adoption if u don't want to. it's his baby too, so wether he stays with you or not he has a responisbility to you and that baby. i wish you all that luck.

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10 years 8 months ago #6 by Meagi
Meagi replied the topic: Re:his mind is made up
You should give into those mommy instincts and protect your baby. If your boyfriend leaves you I think you're a strong enough women to make it through. It also sounds like you're family will help you through. And I was scared to tell my mom too. I waited so long that by the time i did, she had pretty much figured it out.

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