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I choose life, partner chooses abortion

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6 years 1 month ago #1 by Alice Cooper
Alice Cooper replied the topic: Re: I choose life, partner chooses abortion
I agree with you. Once the baby will be in the Dad's hand, he will forget everything. He will become equally caring as you and love the child also. May be now he's bit confused about what he wants to do, and stressed out of family problems. But gradually everything will become alright.

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6 years 2 months ago #2 by Little_Lovely
Little_Lovely replied the topic: Re: I choose life, partner chooses abortion
Follow your heart. I'm in the same position and ive chosen what i want and thats to keep the baby. He'll change when he holds the baby for the first time, love like that is unconditional. hope it goes well for you x

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6 years 6 months ago #3 by MissP
MissP replied the topic: Re: I choose life, partner chooses abortion
I agree, I would have more ok with having an abortion before 10 weeks, but I told him over and over again that I'm half way and I can't have an abortion (because I simply do not want to sign to have a doctor tear my baby apart) and he said that was not a good enough reaosn, I've been feeling so guilty and he was on the phone to me for 3 ours trying to convince me to get it done.

I live in the Uk and here it is legal till 24 weeks, I really think it should be lowered. So I would have 2 days left where I can do it

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6 years 6 months ago - 6 years 6 months ago #4 by GangY
GangY replied the topic: Re: I choose life, partner chooses abortion
im so sorry youre goin through this.

i had an early abortion, and it affected my whole life, and after YEARS of feeling awfull, i am slowly startin to forgive myself for what i did.

but late abortions, i am agains them, why? my girls were born around 23 weeks, they were ALIVE, and they are completely formed, not just a fetus like a baby is at 7 weeks.

what i am tryin to say is, if you got to 22 weeks, you made your decision, you WANT this baby, do not go through an abortion cause life would be easier for your SO after it, because it surely wouldnt be easy for you...

GOOD LUCK<!

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6 years 6 months ago #5 by babygal0322
babygal0322 replied the topic: Re: I choose life, partner chooses abortion
I dont think you could get an abortion now, i think your too far along. You can always give the baby up for adoption, or you can keep the child and raise him your self.

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6 years 6 months ago - 6 years 6 months ago #6 by Izzi
Izzi replied the topic: Re: I choose life, partner chooses abortion
You should always take into consideration your partners feelings, but he is not taking into consideration your feelings.

If you want to keep your baby, he shouldn't and can't stop you and you shouldn't feel guilty for it. Despite his family issues, you should not have an abortion just because he says so. His issues may be temporary and things may change, which he may regret as well as you.

Plus you should explain to him at 22 weeks I think you will find it very difficult to find a doctor that will perform an abortion, they are very very rare and considered highly unethical, as the fetus is viable (can survive) as early as 23 weeks outside the womb. If you live in the US, after the 20th week abortion is often not an option (depends which state) unless your health is at risk. If you live in somewhere like the UK, many counties won't give abortions even after the 12th week. But in other countries I am not sure of the law.

Don't feel pressured, do what you want to do. By your post here, it's clear that you are not ignoring his opinions, you're considering them and making a decision.

I hope everything goes well for you,

Izzi

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