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10 wks pregnant & I havent made my decision ye

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10 years 6 months ago #1 by RonnieBo
RonnieBo replied the topic: Re:10 wks pregnant & I havent made my decision ye
I kinda know how you feel.I was raped by my dad and had a boy who i love very much. It was decided that im not fit to take care of him yet and right now he is bieng taken care of by my grandmother.She belives the rape was all my fault and I know with me so far away she might say some mean things about me to him.I might not get to see him again till he is 4 or 5 and who knows what she might say but I still think keeping him was the right decision.It might be hard knowing that people are giving your child views you dont agree on but if you love him enough and teach him your about your culture and views he might turn out the way you want him to.I say might because with kids its hard to guarantee how they will turn out because of influences from the media and freinds. Somethings you could do when the baby is older are community service and other things to get him melping people.But the decision of what he/she believes will ultimately be up to it.But whatever you choose I hope it turns out okay.Email me to talk.Good luck.

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10 years 11 months ago #2 by motherof3
motherof3 replied the topic: Re:10 wks pregnant & I havent made my decision ye
Hello, your education can be continued and you don't have to wait you can take care of your baby and do everything you need to do to suceed for your baby. I can account I got pregnant when I was 16. I graduated from high school, overcame an abusive relationship with the father and now I'm getting an online degree. DON'T Ever feel bad for getting pregnant there are over 3thousand teens who give birth each year and with the support systems that are in place ,there are homes who will give you and your baby a place to live and help you get your education. This is just a test to make you an overcomer of hard circumstances. Even if you do not want to keep your baby there is a mother out there who decided to have an abortion and it messed thier body up so maybe now they can not have children, would love a second chance at having a baby so whether or not you chose to or not believe me I'm not promising a easy road, but I do know whatever choice you can make it with GOD on your side.....

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10 years 11 months ago #3 by Hermia2012
Hermia2012 replied the topic: Re:10 wks pregnant & I havent made my decision ye
hey girl dont let them push you around!!! you want to keep your baby then keep it. just dont get an abortion. there are other options like adoption. if you dont want to keep it put it up for adoption. but if you want it then be proud and stand up for your rights and keep it and dont let them influence your decision.

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10 years 11 months ago #4 by xxbabiigrl692009xx
xxbabiigrl692009xx replied the topic: Re:10 wks pregnant & I havent made my decision yet!!
dont listen toyour boyfriend if he loves u he will support any dission you make trust me ive been there in done that n it was the worst mistake of my life...i think about it everyday n i juss wanna cry when i think about it my parents talked me into it because i was white n the boii i got preg. by was black...anyways trust me on this one you dont want to do this it....im 16 now almost 17 and im 9weeks n 4 days preg. today n i wouldnt give this up for nothing in the world.......

Megan

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10 years 11 months ago #5 by oh*so*true
oh*so*true replied the topic: Re:10 wks pregnant & I havent made my decision
Dear Kat,
I PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE beg of you to NOT have an abortion. Even if you carry the baby and put the child in an adoption agency, that would be a much better option than completely aborting the child. I first joined this site not because I was pregnant, but to research more information on tramatic situations of abortions. The results I've found we're completely devastating. (Actually, I'm dreading presenting this essay tomorrow in class because I'm afraid I will break down...again.) Many people frown upon the thought of an adoption agency, but if you are not ready to become a mother, please just don't give up on this child. I know I have no place to tell you your actions, but the physical and mental pain with an abortion is horrifying.
Also, it sounds as if the parents are only using this child to get back at you. I am extemely sorry. Please, please, please, make a strong decision and make sure you know all the details and have researched the topic. I am pleased that you keep with your religious faith. Best of luck on your choice and be strong no matter what.

Best of wishes,
oh*so*true

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10 years 11 months ago #6 by Brianna
Brianna replied the topic: Re:10 wks pregnant & I havent made my decision ye
Hi Kat.
through my own experiences, if you can afford to care for your baby, if you have the support of your OWN family, and if you believe you are mature enough to hadle the responsibility of raising a child, i say go for it. If you do not wish to have your boyfriends family in your childs life you dont have to. it is YOUR baby. i know what you mean by influences, and being the mom, you can chose who is a part of your baby's life. be sure to make the descision for yourself, and for your own family. dont miss out on a beautiful baby boy or girl because of your boyfriends family. we all support you in whatever decision you make. as long as you did it for YOU. best of luck!
brianna

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