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I cant get over it..

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10 years 11 months ago #1 by angel_gal84
angel_gal84 replied the topic: Re:I cant get over it..
i know where everyone is coming from to, its been excatly 7 weeks today, and it still hurts like hell.

To everyone that knows what i have done they think that i have gotten over it and that i have moved on, but the only person that hears me cry at night is my boyfriend. Im still with him which makes it that much harder t get over, but i know in my own time ill be able to get over it even if it is in 30 years time.

after i had the abortion the doctor told me that i have depression so i went on the net and researched what the doc told me that i had but i found out that i had a thing called pass (post abortive stress syndrome)


i just know that if i have another unplanned preganacy ill be keeping it this time

lisaxxxxx<br><br>Post edited by: Nicolette, at: 2006/12/01 09:48

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10 years 11 months ago #2 by Kelsey
Kelsey replied the topic: Re:I cant get over it..
You might try Rachel's Vineyard. They have weekend retreats for post-abortive women where you can go through the grief process like you can't do when you're surrounded by judgement at home

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10 years 11 months ago #3 by lissy012207
lissy012207 replied the topic: Re:I cant get over it..
I don't believe in abortion, BUT, its understandable that you panicked and wasnt sure what to do. I'm not exactly sure how you feel or what your going through b/c I'm 32 weeks prego now, but i would definitly seek professional help and talk to someone. I've been in counseling for multiple things in my past and I might persue a career in it and it really does help. maybe you can be put on anti-depressants. I got put on them in 1999 when my cousin died in my arms and I just stopped taking them b/c of the pregnancy. They really do help. goodluck

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10 years 11 months ago #4 by Wonderfulmistake
Wonderfulmistake replied the topic: Re:I cant get over it..
Hey Vickie

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I had my termination a year ago and not a day goes by in which I dont think about my lil angel and wonder what he/she would've looked like. My bf and I had a very difficult time after because the holiday season was approaching and to see all the parents with there babies at time became just to hard. But some people have told me it will get better, which it sort of has but not much. I can't really give advice on how to move on. I just hope you have a strong, supportive partner whose there to wipe your tears. I dont completely regret my decision but I do often wonder what if. But we all have our reasons and no one else was/is in your shoes. If you need someone to talk to feel free to leave me a note with your email. Stay strong!;)

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10 years 11 months ago #5 by persianprincess
persianprincess replied the topic: Re:I cant get over it..
I'm sorry about what you went through, I went through an abortion 3 days before my 18th last year and it was really really hard. I let it go this year when I found out I was yet pregnant again. It just seems like you made that decision by yourself and did what made you comfortable. I know it will be hard but try to stay strong. Make sure that you don't get pregnant too soon again, because you might still have that belief deep down inside, which would make the situation a lil harder to cope with. Remember that you did this because you thought that your baby could not have the love and support s/he needed and that you made your choice based on your life, your bfs and your baby's. Remember that you want the best for your child, and eventhough this experience was hard, there will be better things to come your way, and when it is the right time for you, you can make a great mother. :D. Good luck hun

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10 years 11 months ago #6 by dillon12
dillon12 replied the topic: Re:I cant get over it..
i was in a very simular position to you. i had an abortion a few month b4 i turned 19 and my bf was 25, i hade been wth my bf for 3 years. my bf was there for me every step of the way but to me if felt like i was going through it alone, i brough this up wth my bf and he said coz its kinda like it never happend to him as he wasnt the one that had to yhve the abortion. i totaly respect and understand his point but inside i feel angry at him at times that he was part of conciving the baby but i was the one that had to go through lossing my baby. we talk all the time about having a baby now but we know that we want to wait till i am out of uni and can give our baby the best of eveything, it doesnt make me stop thinking about it eveyday. its hard knowing that right now i would be a mommy to a 1month old baby but i know that we that i did it for the right reason for us. its hard but i try and make it a positive. i try real hard to save money and do little things likethat so if it happens again i wont have to have an abortion. if you ever need to talk about it give me an email fun_loving29@hotamil.com.
it does gets easer trust me

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