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I'M ONLY 14...AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!! HELP

  • Laura
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11 years 4 months ago #1 by Laura
Laura replied the topic: Re:I'M ONLY 14...AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!! HELP
:) The only thing i can tell you is that i personally went through the same thing. I got pregnant when i was 14 and I decided to have my baby. He was born on february 25,2005. trust me babies bring pure joy to your life. Don't do an abortion it will haunt you for the rest of your life!!!

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11 years 4 months ago #2 by Chiola
Chiola replied the topic: Re:I'M ONLY 14...AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!! HELP
Hi Lauren,
I got pregnant when I was 16 and abortion never came in to my mind but I know because of the lifestyle I was leading it was good fotr me to have her alot changed and the responsibility and mindset I should have had as a 16 year old I got once I had her.

I think your very young and have a lot of time to have a baby, I think you should explore the reasons why you would want a baby and if you could mentally cope with all the changes having a baby brings, not just the responsibility of caring for a baby but personally for you, what about your education and future?, how are you going to cope financially? your 14 years old there are no garuntees that your boyfriend will hang around or be able to cope with a baby.

I am now 27 years old and my daughter is 10 in Sept it has been hard work raising her as a single parent and being able to offer her the best and teach her good values and morals and set a good example to her (children learn from their parents) I've gone back to school to study (which is very difficult, beacuse I have to study but I also have to give my daughter quality time, also it's no fun studying at my age,I wish I'd done it when I was your age) and have big plans for our future (it's extra hard work with a child), I constantly have to think about what I do and how it will affect her me and my daughters dad are not together and it's only now I'm starting to discover who I am and what I like and am able to do, and understand my emotions and be honest with myself.

I wish you all the best what ever decision you make. Lots of love Chiola
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11 years 4 months ago #3 by Vanessa
Vanessa replied the topic: Re:I'M ONLY 14...AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!! HELP
HEY IM 14 N I FOUND OUT IM PREGNENT TODAY N I DIDNT KNO WHAT TO DO AT FIRST BT I THINK IM GONNA KEEP IT I JUST CANT KILL A KID HAVE YOU TOLD UR PARENTS? :blush:

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11 years 4 months ago #4 by Elisha
Elisha replied the topic: Re:I'M ONLY 14...AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!! HELP
First of all I dont want to be preachy. I have gone through the emotions that you are going through but in a totally different situation. I cant have kids! For my entire life I have wanted to be a mom. I thought I did everyting right. I stayed away from boys until I gratuated from high school( in the phyiscal intimacy sense) I went to college, I got married, I waited a year, bought a house, then decided to try for a baby. What I expected turned out to be a rollercoaster of doctor visits. Feelings of inadequesy and feeling just plain broken. I mean what is the point of being a woman if you cant create life. My dreams of becoming a mom were shattered. Where was I to turn? After three grouling years of horrible pills and even more horrible tests, my husband and I decided to adopt.
One day after having a great portion of our money and our hearts placed in an agency, we were informed that an incredibly courageous woman had chosen to give her child a better life than she could provide herself.
After communicating and meeting this woman for four months she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl which she placed in our arms.
My dreams came true. I now have a beautiful daughter who I love more than life itself. Yet she doesnt have just one mom she has two. one who gave her life and one who is teaching and nurturing her through life.
We still communicate with her biological mom and send pictures and videos ans letters as often as we can.
Adoption is an option. Not only are you giving an enormous gift to someone but your also giving it to yourself and the child at hand. consider the life you will lead knowing your child is being well taken care of and loved by not only one mom but two.
love isnt just being there it is showing it by the actions you take to make life better for those around you.
my love is with you -Elisha

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11 years 4 months ago #5 by Antonina
Antonina replied the topic: Re:Give your baby for adoption
Dear Lauren'
Hi. My name is Antonina \"Tonya\" and I am 20. I am not pregnat but i want you to know that abortion is wrong. Give your baby for adoption. I was adopted when I was 15, my mother was not able to support my siblings and me. Please keep in your mind that you are carring a baby. Just think that at the age of 20 days they have abrain and they can feel. The child will feel a lot of more pain than anybody in the world. I am praying for you.
Your friend,
Tonya :)<br><br>Post edited by: Julie, at: 2006/06/21 12:19

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11 years 4 months ago #6 by Sabrina
Sabrina replied the topic: Re:I'M ONLY 14...AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!! HELP
Hello Lauren. My name is Sabrina. I am 17 and my son is 4 months old. I felt exactly like you did when I found out about Julian. I contemplated all the options. I just want to let you know that if you choose to have your child all your fears will change, you selfishness will be gone. I plan to go shopping for myself and I end up coming home with nothing but baby things. I get a little sad that I can't go out anymore, like I used to, but then I look at my son it is all worth it. Whatever decision you make will be the right one for you but after you have a child...no matter how old you are...you become a stronger person. I hope all goes well!

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