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in need of serious help!!

  • TLC
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11 years 6 months ago #1 by TLC
TLC replied the topic: Re:in need of serious help!!
Let me just tell you that the emotional scars from having an abortion are going to last you a lifetime and the unforgivness that you feel for killing your baby is horrible.
The joys of a baby and there whole life is worth all the struggle.
Childeren are a gift and you are to treat them as such,
God doesn't make mistakes, THis life is breathed by GOD and you are his tool in which he is using to manifest this child on earth.
You aRe to love and care for this baby I promise that you won't regret it...
let me know how you decide. I'm here to pray for you and there are so many resoureces,,,, TALK TO YOUR MOM>>>> she loves you and will understand cause you are her child.....

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11 years 6 months ago #2 by loz
loz replied the topic: im in the same problem help!!
hiya im pregnant and ive miscarried once b4 i stilll think bout it 2 and cry myself 2 sleep sumtimes the onli thing is i onli told my closest m8 that i woz pregnant when i miscarried , im 15 my bf will stand by me but my mum and dad will hate me my dad will wanna kill my bf i want to have this baby as i know i wnat kids and this mite b my onli chance 2 hav 1 hope everything goes ok 4 u luv loz xxx

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11 years 6 months ago #3 by sophie
sophie replied the topic: Re:in need of serious help!!
hi, im 16, i no wot ur goin thru my bf was the same when i found out and wen i told my family yes they were dissapointed and my dad went crazy, but they got used to it, then wen i was 10weeks pregnant things wer lookin up, my bf wantd to keep it and my family had calmed down,i went for my first scan,that was when i found out i had had a silent miscarrage(when the baby dies but you get no symptoms of miscarrage) things havent been the same,i still miss my baby and grieve for it,but please i want u to realise that you have been given a very special miricle, love your baby as it already loves you and depends on you for evrything at the moment, it will be hard but if any of the girls on this site can do it, so can you,even if you choose adoption its still choosing life, just be strong and don't let anyone tell you what to do when it concerns your child. i hope you make the right decision,good luck and i wish you all the best for the future, sophie xxx

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11 years 6 months ago #4 by ellen
ellen replied the topic: Re:in need of serious help!!
Dear Suzy. trust me I understand what you are going through. It may seem scary now but with prayer it gets better. Take time before you make your decision. everything happens for a reason. Aparrently God thinks you will be a good mom and he gave you this child for a reason. The scars from abortion are hard to heal. Ellen

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11 years 6 months ago #5 by Elizabeth
Elizabeth replied the topic: Re:in need of serious help!!

If your boyfriend truly loves you and cares about you, he will stay with you if you decide to keep the baby.

Having a baby can be the most wonderful experience but its a lot of work. I know a lot of teen mums and they love being a mum.

I havent had a baby myself but my sister had a baby when she was 18. She fell pregnant on her birthday.

The only person that can decide if you are going to have an abortion is you. But having an abortion can be really hard and you must make sure its your decision and not your boyfriend.

I reccomend that you go and see a counsellor if you decide to go through the abortion or if you decide to keep it.

Let me know what happens, contact me!


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11 years 6 months ago #6 by cristina
cristina replied the topic: Re:in need of serious help!!
hi, first off, i have to say congratulations on your pregancy. although not planned. it's always a blessing to have a baby. let me tell you a littl about myself. I'm 19 years old. i was pregnant when i turned 16. Of course alot of things were going through my mind when i found out, but abortion wasn't one of them. Yeah, i thought about abortion, not because i wanted to do it, but because i knew that it was the easy way out for me, but you know what, maybe yeah you can have an abortion, and forget about it like it never happened, no one has to know, not your family, not his family, not your friends, hell, not anyone, but you know what, GOD WILL KNOW, BECAUSE YOU CAN'T HIDE FROM GOD, YOU CAN HIDE FROM EVERYONE ELSE, BUT WHO CARES? BECAUSE HE'S THE ONE THAT WILL KNOW, and i don't know if you believe in God, but i do, and that's what i told myself everyday, when i had to hide that i was pregnant for everyone, when i felt that i couldn't take it anymore, when i cried at night, and it helped me. It was hard to carry this burden, like i'm sure it is for you. But trust me, abortion is not the way out. And lets be realistic here, you and your boyfriend decided to have sex, guessing without protection, it's like saying, oh i don't care if i'm pregnant or not. YOU decided that you were going to have unprotected sex, and therefore you should've known you were going to come out possibly pregnant. it's not the babies fault that you two decided to bring it unplanned. Go with your intuition, if you have ANY doubt, than don't do it. It's easy for your boyfriend to say to have an abortion, but it's YOU that is going to have the baby not him! I have friends that would love to have a baby, but they can't and it makes me mad that girls have abortions, when so many women desire that wish so much. I know where your coming from, but abortion won't do it, if you want, put it in adoption, but BELIEVE ME, you'll get attached to your baby those 9 months, it's beautiful to have a little human being inside you, and that baby depends on you, it has feelings you know. i'm sure that it's going to be hard to tell everyone about your pregnancy, but those are the consquences for YOUR ACTIONs and your boyfriend also. i had my baby when i was 17, and i had to face critiscm from everyone. But if i had had an abortion, oh how would i have regretted it. I would've missed out on alot, my son is the best, he loves me and i love him, he's my little buddy, and let me tell you he's oh so handsome and sweet, and it feels good when he calls me mami. Maybe your boyfriend doesn't want a baby right now, but when you do have the baby, it will move him in so many ways, and maybe your family can help out or his also, there's always light after the storm,
and your case isn't any different. Keep your head up high and listen to yourself, your intuition and your instinct, don't choose the easy way out, keep your head high, and confront what you started, no matter how hard it seems, no matter how much adversity or negativity, keep thinking for your baby. And whenever you go to a store, go to the baby department, and i want you to see the stuff they have, the little baby clothes, accessories, cradles, so you can see what it is the joy of being a mother!! Email me, please. let me know what happens!

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