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My bf raped me

11 years 6 months ago #1 by Frodo18
No one should get away with doing that to anyone. I've been through it, and I wish I had had some kinda of help and support to tell me what I didn't do was what i should have done. You should definitely do it....no one deserves to have to go through that

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11 years 7 months ago #2 by naomi
It's very hard to decide on what to do when something like that happens. I've been in a similar situation but he never actually raped me. I was 11 going on 12 and he was about 17. I managed to get away. For days i didn't tell anyone because i was scared and thought it was my fault. Although it wasn't i was just scared. I ended up finally reporting him. Once i did i was so relieve and come to find out a few years ago detectives came to my house wondering if we had seen him cuz he had done it to another young girl and he was then 20 at the time. SO you should defintely tell someone if he did indeed rape you. Because if yu dont he may get away with it if he does it again. And its best if you do somthing as soon as possible! it's not your fault it happened and dont let him get away with it!

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11 years 7 months ago #3 by laughterisagift
I agree charge him with rape. Too many girls keep their mouths shut and rapists walk. Be brave and do what you feel God wants you to do. Just make sure before you decide to charge that you had nothing to do with it like initiating it.

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11 years 7 months ago #4 by BigAlsMom02
I'm curious as to why you want to charge him with rape. Did you consent to having sex with him? And even if you did, you're 15 and he's 19 so that is illegal (statutory rape.) Do you want to charge him only so you can get child support, becuase if that is the case, he doesn't need to be charged with rape to have to pay, it just needs to be proven that he is the biological father. When I was about 3 months pregnant (I was 16 at the time) I was raped by a guy that was 18 at the time. I did not consent! but I also didn't want to provoke him because I didn't want him to harm my baby. I didn't tell anyone until the next day after I'd showered and cleaned myself up (I felt so dirty!!!) So I couldn't have a rape kit done to prove anything. He ended up admitting to raping me but he was never charged-sometimes the legal system is a bunch of jerks! My advice to you would be to wait until the baby is born, because nothing can be done until then (unless ofcourse you have the money and want to go through with an amniocentisis to prove that he is the biological father and he still wouldn't have to pay anything until the baby is born.) Good luck to you and I hope your heart heals from the horrible crime committed to you.

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11 years 11 months ago #5 by Jonluver
You need to telll the police. I was raped a couple years ago and i kept my mouth shut. I was too scared to tell anyone. And know that i think about that was so stupid. i let them walk. they(it was 2 guys) are out and could do it again. don't make the same mistake i did. do something!!!!!


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11 years 11 months ago #6 by alifeisgone05
let me just tell you. i wish i had even found this site when this happened to me. i was 8 weeks as well and had an abortion. there was \"no other\" way out for me. i was 18 and my boyfriend of 2 months raped me with a gun as part of his gang initiation. found out i was pregnant... couldn't prosecute b/c i was so terribly afraid of his gang. didn't want the baby to go through living that life. i'm trying, i really am. but i think you should prosecute if you feel that he raped you. remember: YOU DIDN'T DESERVE THAT. YOU DIDN'T ASK FOR THAT. it was his fault. his sick mind. get people to support you... pastor, this support group... even try to tell your parents (if they already don't know)! don't go through what i did. oh, and try some therapy. ;)

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