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i ShulDnt have to ChooSE

11 years 1 month ago #1 by LOHO3
He is not a man. He is not even worth worrying about, honestly. I'm 16 and 34 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend didn't want this baby to begin with but he is overjoyed that we're having a baby now. And you know what, maybe it would be best for your baby if you didn't stay with the dad. Be happy that he doesn't want to be with you cos honestly, my boyfriend and I have quite a un healthy relationship and at times I really think that it would be better for the baby if we wernt together. But what happends happens and you have to live as your life progresses. My advice is though, ditch him, who cares about him. He's hopeless and he has proven that himself. One day he'll live to regret walking out on his baby. Don't try and force the baby upon him though. That won't do any good, it will just make him resent the situation even more. Let him come round to it. Who knows, he may even warm to the idea of being a father again as all the sweet memories of his first chikd come back to him.

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11 years 2 months ago #2 by QT08
You really shouldn't have to choose. You should have your child regardless of whether or not he helps. If he is really neglectful then you take him to court for child support. He nneds to realize that you didn't lay down by yourself and make this baby. It takes two to tango. Do what you think is best for you and your child.

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11 years 2 months ago #3 by Kit
Don't let your boyfriend put you down or make you feel bad about the pregnancy. It takes two people to make a baby and he is as much responsible as you are. Unfortunately it sounds like he is not being responsible and definitely not being supportive of you. You deserve much better. With support from your family the pregnancy will be much easier. Listen to your heart and hang in there. Do not let you boyfriend pressure you into an abortion you do not want. Perhaps he will come around and be more supportive, but if not you are strong and can make it without him. Best wishes.


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11 years 2 months ago #4 by LoveBBOA
Coming from someone who has been in your shoes, follow your heart hun. I was a single mother up until 4 years ago. I was 16 when I had my son Damon and 18 months after he was born his father left and wanted nothing to do with us. Here 7 years later he hasnt seen or contacted us once. He has 2 other kids with another woman as well. I can't say the road has been pleasent or easy. But I can say that it was worth it. :) Just keep your head up and remember that you CAN overcome anything you put your mind to. There are so many of us that have!

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11 years 2 months ago #5 by nessa
I know how you feel im going throw the same thing ...
im 19 im 3 months and my boyfriend has a kid ..
He dosent want me to have it ...he since we found out he bring on my ass about not havin it..make me cry making feel bad ..thats it my fualt ...
Evey one in my family know that im pregnant they are all happy they all want me to have it ..
im lost wut should i do...?I want have it...it's in me not him im the one going tho all the pain all the hurt alone..
i rather have the baby than be with him ..if thats wut i have to do ...i will...!!
the same time i still un sure ...??? :(

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11 years 2 months ago #6 by Allison
You are right to follow your heart. Don't worry about your child's father- there are other places and people that will offer you support even if he will not. You are obviously a brave person to stand up for your baby in spite of the harrassment you are getting! Hang in there! It is scary to feel like you are alone in this decision to have and raise a child, but there are plenty of support agencies and groups for single moms. Call around until you find what you need! There are many churches who would be willing to help, too....

Peace to you and your baby!

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