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Any advice you have.

  • martha
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12 years 1 week ago #1 by martha
martha replied the topic: Re:Any advice you have.
hi paris
i think just forget about him make him pay child support u dont need him to raise a baby their plenty of girls doing that

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12 years 1 week ago #2 by Heidi
Heidi replied the topic: Re:Any advice you have.
Sounds like you need a supportive friend.
I'm soooo proud that you are letting this baby live, and not taking the alternative to end it's innocent life.
Even if you were in the ideal situation, you'd be struggling with hormones - which can be a bugger. You've got the added stress of everything you're going through at school and at home which can make this seem like an agonizing situation.
You hang in there, girl. Let me know if you'd like someone to talk with.
Good luck, and keep in touch!

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12 years 1 week ago #3 by misswest
misswest replied the topic: Re:Any advice you have.
what ever you do you gotta be strong. know that its time to grow up and its not about you its about the baby. keep great company around you and dont be stressed. if you are feeling bad then your baby will feel that way so take it easy on yourself. eat good and sleep and take your pre natal pills.
god bless

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12 years 1 week ago #4 by Shan
Shan replied the topic: Re:Any advice you have.
Dear Paris,

I personally would first off tell him because it's better he knows now than later because you might never have another chance to tell him you are pregnant. You should confront him about it before the grudge you have with him grows bigger into a bad situation to where when the baby is finally born it would be around a negative enviorment.....meaning bad sorrounding like arguments and very much confusion. I am only 15 and I know from my friends who had babies that if there's is one thing all boys do when they here a girl is pregnant is become scared nervous just as much as the girl does. So, you should stand up to him and tell him he's the father.
weither he wants to be in this child life or not it is up to you to become the parent that baby need. A man doesn't makes a home. :ermm:

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12 years 2 weeks ago #5 by sara
sara replied the topic: Re:Any advice you have.
Unfortunately father's have a right no matter what but the good news is if he's moving out of state then he won't be there to see the baby or cause you more problems at school. That feeling of depression is completely okay!!! It's hormones, stress, and a big life change that's causing it. But you're right that you WILL find a way thru everything. Just sit down and talk with your aunt. Tell her that although you made a mistake maybe now her children will see that sex before marriage has major consequences and that you're setting a good example by standing up for your actions and being responsible. Let her know how much you need her support and love and how much you're baby will too. Then maybe you should think about abstinence. I've been emailing Lisa alot about it lately and she's amazing at helping me thru the tough times. There's always a listening ear here if not at home and just remember that every girl here is in or has been in your situation and we're all looking out four you and rooting for you and your child. Best wishes and love,

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  • Paris
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12 years 2 weeks ago #6 by Paris
Paris replied the topic: Re:Any advice you have.
Hey guys. Thanks for all of your help. I did end up telling the father, and things ended up going down like I expected. He is pressuring me to get an abortion, but I won't. I am really nervous because I know if i keep this baby he will make my life a living hell, which He already has. He has been going around school saying that this baby could be anybodies, and that I'm such a slut. And the thing that sucks the most is that he has turned all but one of my friends against me. I don't know what to do. My aunt told me that they have special schools for pregnant teens, so I might join one of those. I just feel really tired all the time, almost like depressed. I barely have any friends left and now everyone thinks I'm a slut. I know I shouldn't even think this, but sometimes I want to go to sleep and never wake up again. I feel so much resentment against my child already and I know I shouldn't. I feel guilty for feeling that way. I really do love my child, and I do want to keep it, but I am so scared and frustrated right now, I could pull all my hair out. I know a lot of teen mothers probably feel the same way, but I don't know if I can take it anymore.
Oh, and to top it all off, I have been fighting with my aunt now a lot too. She has a daughter two years older than me, and then a son my age, and then two younger kids, a 9 and 6 year old. She keeps yelling at me, saying I've set such a bad example for the younger ones. and her oldest daughter Kylie keeps telling her to kick me out. I don't know but my friend Anna told me that the father is planning on going to live with his mother in California, cause she's rich or something. So he probably will end up doing nothing for my child. I don't even want him ever to see my child. my child is probably better off never meeting him. I don't know. Is there any law where fahters still have to pay child support and yet can't see their child?
idk, I'm just rambling on now, heck I got myself in this mess I\"ll figure a way our right? but thank you for all your replies. they've helped a lot.

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