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A big mistake!!!

  • julie
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12 years 8 months ago #1 by julie
julie replied the topic: Re:A big mistake!!!
If you are pregnant, Please don't have an abortion. I know that it will not be easy to have this baby, but everything does happen for a reason. God has a plan for you and your child. I did choose abortion at age 19 and have lived with the regret for 17 years. I have finally come to terms with it through the help of a wonderful priest. I have made it my mission to reach out to others to stop them from making the same mistake I made. I have a friend who also got pregnant at 19. She kept the baby and trusted in God. She evnetually met a married a wonderful man who excepted her child, had two more children and then went on to co-found an organization that helps young teenage mothers with pre and post-natal care, baby items and supplies, support groups and even some babysitting. It was truly what she was meant to be doing. Be open to all possibilities. I will keep you in my prayers.

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  • Alisha
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12 years 8 months ago #2 by Alisha
Alisha replied the topic: Hey, I read your message!
Dear Tiffany,
I couldn't believe your story when I read It, because It's totally the exact same thing that I am going through right now. I am in my first year of college, and I'll be 20 yrs.old in August. I just found out a few weeks ago that I am pg. I have been with the same bf for a year and about 9 months. I actually found out that I was pg the day of our 1 year and 8 month anniversary, which was on March 11th. What a great GIFT, huh?! Well anyways, we were having sum problems with him cheating on me with sum girls from work and stuff, so to make a long story short, i kinda slept with his best friend to get back at him. And NOW I HATE MYSELF! I love him very much! and i know he loves me...he knows about the pg thing. and he seems happy. I just dont know how to live with myself when i dont know who the real father is to my baby, going day by day knowing? and noone else does? its awful. i want it too be his and only his. i want it to look and act like him and everything. I'm just not the kinda person to do sumthing like that, i'm so disgusted with myself, thats for sure. So to sum this all up, im excited, yet sad?!? i havent even told all my or his family yet. That day will cum soon, and i am not lookin foward to it at all. UGH! well hopefully they will except the fact! and yes! i also too do believe that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!!! Well, i just wanna say thanx to you for writing a message out on here, i stumbled onto this website and found it. i believe that was meant to be, cuz your story helps me alot, to know that i am not alone! thank you, please respond back soon! ;)

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12 years 8 months ago #3 by Tiffany
Tiffany replied the topic: Re:A big mistake!!!
I know this sounds bad but I pray that you are not pg! I was 17 when I got pg, I was with my boyfriend a yr and a half. The week that I got pg, I could have been w another guy and I choose not too, it just didn't feel right! Then little signs started to happen. I ignored it, we had had unprotected sex for a yr and I was told that I couldn't have kids and if I did get pg it would be complicated. Well needless to say I was 6 weeks pg when I found out, just got accepted to the college that I wanted and had my life planned out. Well that is what is funny, it's not your plan it's God's! now my daughter and I are very healthy and happy. She is 4 now. I did end up marring my boyfriend and now I'm 22 and have been trying to have another baby for 2 yrs!! I had a misscarriage in Oct 03 and it was devastating! Then again it's God's plan. If he wants me to have another child I will. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't take anything for granted, especially life! If it happens that you are pg then let it be. I had a reputation too as the \"inosent girl, who did well in school\" and popular, well where are my so called friends now? Actually you learn a lot about yourself and your friends once something like this happens to you. Don't let anyone take advantage of you! I don't know what to tell you about the \"? father\". He does have a right to know. things will work out for the best. Always remember that EVERY THING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, you may not understand that reason right away or even a yr later, but it will come to you. You can email me if you want. Let me know the outcome!

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12 years 8 months ago #4 by sara
sara replied the topic: Re:A big mistake!!!
You cant worry about something like a reputation when it comes to a baby. I had an abortion when I was 16 and have never forgiven myself. I think that if you really dont think that you can do this, give it up for adoption, there are many families that cant have children. Maybe you could find a place that takes in girls in you position, we have a great one where I live.

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12 years 8 months ago #5 by softballchick_8
softballchick_8 replied the topic: Re:A big mistake!!!
hey chick. i'm sry th@ ur havin' 2 go through this but it is possible th@ ur not pg. i wudnt wry till u miss a period or start showing signs. then if ne or th@ happens u can take a test. as far as the abortion thing i dont believe that even this is an exception, but its ur choice. just remeber that yes u made a mistake but its not that baby's fault and there are other options. talk to ur friends and parents about this and see what they say if they dont support u there are other ppl. out there th@ will. if u got an abortion, no matter wh@ ne1 says, u'll more than likely feel horrible for the rest of ur life. if u need to tlk just email me.

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12 years 8 months ago #6 by Ramsey
Ramsey replied the topic: Re:A big mistake!!!
I know how you are feeling, but in my opinion I can honestly say I wouldn't have an abortion. TRUST ME on this one. For the rest of your life you'll always wonder if he or she would have been successful, beautiful, happy, intelligent.. all of that will cross your mind. even thought it was with somone you dind't love. My opinion is to give it up for adoption. there are alot of families who simply can not have children and want them so bad. You don't want it--- they do. Perfect situation. I know because when I was your age i was forced to have an abortion. I am 22 now, and to this day I regret it. I wish I had made the right choice. when I was given the choice. Your son or daughter will find a great home and if you do it right then maybe you'll be able to have contact so you can see how he or she grows up. It's hard living with your self after an abortion. I know.... I hope that you make the right choice for you.
All my hope,

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