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8 years 9 months ago #1 by Evangeline
Evangeline replied the topic: Re:Advice?
Hi there, I can understand how hurt and angry you are about what you found out. People make silly decisions sometimes, without thinking how it might affect others later on. Only you can decide how you feel about your stiuation, but perhaps some therapy can help clarify and process some of the emotions you're dealing with.

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8 years 9 months ago #2 by MissKirsty
MissKirsty replied the topic: Re:Advice?
Hun, I know that it seems like if they almost had an abortion that they must not love you if they were willing to kill you. But from what I've seen, most people who decide not to have an abortion after they have considered it actually find out that they love their baby LOTS. Don't think about how they almost aborted you, because the truth is that they didn't. They let you live even though it changed their lives.
You could be angry that they aborted their first baby, because it was definitely wrong of them to do it. But the truth is that you being angry and bitter towards your parents is not going to change anything. Believe me, your Mom has probably suffered more than enough already for that abortion.
I know that this is a tough thing to think about for you. I really hope that everything clears up for you soon!

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8 years 9 months ago #3 by Kyoko
Kyoko created the topic: Advice?
Well, I know most of the people on here have been pregnant before or something and the problem is that, well, do they get an abortion? But I'm a little different.
I was adopted when I was a little over a month old. My mother had a brain tumor and was partially paralyzed. My father was on meds for neurological problems (I don't really know what was wrong.) So, after my mother had me, when she took me to the doctor, my dad came one time. He asked the doctor if there was anything to give me to keep me from crying. The doctor, of course, said "Babies cry. Why would you ever want to make her stop crying?" and my father replied, "Well, I love her but sometimes the crying is just so annoying I want to hit the wall!"
Needless to say, the doctor called DSS. They told my mother either put me up for adoption or leave her husband. She put me up for adoption and a couple who were also friends of the family took me in because the woman was barren. These people are my parents now, and I've lived with them my whole life.
Well, over time the story of my biological family has started to unravel between me and my adopted mother. As I get older, she tells me things about them. One time she said it was a miracle I was even alive. Of course, I asked, "Why?"
My biological parents got pregnant two years before they had me. My mother had an abortion. I would have a sibling if not for that. They almost had me aborted, too. My parents say that they loved me, but what parents love their kid when they almost killed them? I don't know what to think about it. I don't know whether to hate them or love them or what. I want to meet them someday, but what if they don't want me after all the trouble I've caused? Should I be angry that they murdered my older sibling? I don't even know if it was a boy or a girl.

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