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8 years 11 months ago #1 by MzLady22
MzLady22 replied the topic: Re:sorry if I am "misuing ur site"
i was the one who started the original thread of "misuse of this site". unfortunately it has been taken quite out of context. I am very glad you came here to get advice. if you can afford to raise a child and are in a committed relationship and also feel mentally prepared then I am not going to tell you not to. That thread was in response to much younger girls who are not in relationships at all or are even old enough to have a job. And I was not saying those girls coming here to ask for advice were misusing this site. I felt like the girls who were saying things like "Good luck" instead of telling them the realities of being a single parent who isnt old enough to drive were misusing the site. Girls need to know what they are getting themselves into before they decide to get pregnant. It is good that you came here to hear from other girls. I hope I cleared up any misunderstanding. It is apparent that you are taking this maturely by not jumping into it blindly.

so anyway, here is my advice. It is going to be much more difficult on your relationship to deal with the stresses of getting married, starting college, AND raising a baby at the same time. I am not saying it isnt possible, but it seems to me that it would be much better to take that a step at a time. go to college, after yall are adjusted, go ahead and get married, and once you feel you are ready to balance the three, try for a baby. But babies take a lot of attention and money. If you want to take the least stressful path, why not wait to have a baby?

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8 years 11 months ago #2 by Autumn
Autumn replied the topic: Re:sorry if I am "misuing ur site"
No, I don't think that you're misusing the site, either. It is being responsible to get a second, third, or fourth opinion from some girls who know the difficulties and rewards. I'd reccommend you being married for the sole sake of the fact that it is extremely hard for YOU as a pregnant woman to go through all of these changes without your man lying beside you at night rubbing your tummy.

Best wishes for your future baby. <3

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8 years 11 months ago #3 by jessey223
jessey223 replied the topic: Re:sorry if I am "misuing ur site"
I also don't think you are misusing the site. In fact people like you is why I started on this site to begin with to give my point of view and advise because I was once in those shoes. I think it is great that you and your bf are being responsible and getting opinions. But I think a lot of the girls on here feel very strongly (including myself) that your very fortunate for your situation and should wait until your married next year. However you have to do what is best for you and your bf we are just trying to give you the advise you asked for. I do wish you the best of luck no matter what you decide to do. Jessica

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8 years 11 months ago #4 by MissKirsty
MissKirsty replied the topic: Re:sorry if I am "misuing ur site"
No, you are not misusing the site. :-)
Here is my advice... If you and your boyfriend want a baby, then get married and have one! :-)
Keep us updated. ;-)

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8 years 11 months ago #5 by annalee9509
annalee9509 created the topic: sorry if I am "misuing ur site"
I thought this was a place where I could come and get help. Just because I am not having a baby unexpectedly doesn't mean I don't have questions. The reason I came on this site was because I didn't want to bring a child into the world if I wasn't fully prepared to take care of one and I was hoping that the girls would be able to give me real advice. My boyfriend and are prepared to get married and to attend college whiletaking care of our baby. We are not being irresponsible or immature about the situation and that is why I wanted to get advice from teens who had actually been through it, but its ok. God bless yall and thank you for your responses.

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