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Really need some advice

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8 years 10 months ago #1 by Autumn
Autumn replied the topic: Re:Really need some advice
That is kind of true. On the other hand, if you're together that long you should be married. Also, if you are married, I don't believe that you can get a divorce. Period. Not for any circumstance. You said your vows. Sure, it's legal. But in God's eyes, you two are still man and wife.

Now as for your situation... maybe you should learn from being pregnant 3 times and getting abortions. It's not like you magically just say "OH! I don't want an abortion this time." You go through periods where you don't know what to think and it can be confusing, so you may give in. Also, you wanting a baby could just be because of the abortions and previous experienes.

Good luck, either way. :)

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8 years 10 months ago #2 by TooHelp
TooHelp replied the topic: Re:Really need some advice
You will do well. Stop listening to the pessimistic comments made by those who don't want you to be happy. Keep smiling, don't give up.

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8 years 10 months ago #3 by Ch3y_IS_BACK!!
Ch3y_IS_BACK!! replied the topic: Re:Really need some advice
Why is it that everyone thinks that just ebcause they are not married yet the father won't be around...my mum was married to her youngest childrens father for 11years and he hasn't seen them in two years..on the other hand my friend is 20 with three kids and has been with her bf for 8 coming on 9 years...think about it people....my uncle and aunt have never been married but have been together 23 years and have a son who's 12...so which one would you prefer?? open your minds things like this aint just black and white...things are different for each situation...you know deep deep down if your truely honest with yourself when its right...be really honest and tru don't kid yourself if you hae love stability and time..go ahead...if not and you'll know if you don't then wait...x

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8 years 11 months ago #4 by MzLady22
MzLady22 replied the topic: Re:Really need some advice
well your probably better off waiting until you graduate so you can be better prepared and not have to drop out of school. you might want to get married also. im sure you have no thoughts that ur man would leave if u had a child unmarried but it happens all the time and to girls who never could imagine it. I used to want so bad to have a baby. which is why i got pregnant the first time. i didnt try to prevent it. i was very irresponsible and immature and just thought i would be so happy. but as soon as it happened i panicked and aborted. well since then i have still had those maternal erges like crazy sometimes and i am engaged and have been for 2 years but i finally made the personal decision that i just have to wait. i just have to graduate so i can be sure i can give my child everything it deserves. i am doing very good now i am on birth control and make sure to take it every single night. i dont want to mess up like i did before. i also think about my fiance who wants to go to college and law school (hes in the marines right now) and how hard it would be for him to reach his goals if we had a child young. even if he says hed be happy, id probably feel guilt for the rest of my life if he never got to do those things. you just have to use your head and make a personal decision.

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9 years 1 day ago #5 by mygirlsnov7th08
mygirlsnov7th08 replied the topic: Re:Really need some advice
just give it some time i wanted kids but not at 16 but i got them anyway

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9 years 1 day ago #6 by MissKirsty
MissKirsty replied the topic: Re:Really need some advice
You're not wrong for wanting a baby at all! That is completely normal, especially after an abortion or miscarriage.
It doesn't sound like a baby would wreck your weekends or anything, but even though a baby might not wreck YOUR life, what kind of a life would your baby have? No matter how good of a mom you would be, it is hard on children when they don't have a mom AND a dad that is there everyday.
If you want to be a mom, and you don't care if you have a baby while you're in college, why not get married? Then no one can say that you shouldn't have kids.;-)
I really do know what it's like to desperately want a baby, but please consider what would be best for your children. :-)

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