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9 years 10 months ago #1 by kyauch
kyauch replied the topic: Re:my abortion
I recently found out that my sister-in-law had an abortion in April. She's been dating this one guy for about one year. I often ask myself, how could she do that?? Then I ask myself, how could a doctor let her do that?? Knowing that a heart is already beating within the first few days...
It really hit me hard knowing this. I will never look at her the same way ever again. Especially since my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for the past 4 months. It makes me think- Geeze-our little baby could have had a playmate... Not only that, but my mother-in-law is very angry at her. She has often told her daughter when she was growing up that she would help her out if she ever became pregnant. So comes the next question- why, when she was surrounded by such loving family did she still do it?? Her answer- the boyfriend. The boyfriend did not want the baby. It's so difficult to grasp. In my mind- if he doesn't love her enough to keep the baby that they made together, then why is she keeping him around?? The responsibility falls on two people. If you make a baby, be responsible for it, be an adult- even if you are only 15 or whatever. There is so much help out there these days for younger people who need it.
Now, she is being treated for depression. She has a cousin who is the same age as her, and it turns out that they both got pregnant the same month. Only difference is that the cousin decided to keep her baby because she didn't believe in abortion. (Odd thing is is that the cousin was the irresponsible one...) So now the cousin is due in January, and my sister in law is realizing the impact of her decision already. Now she has to watch her cousins baby grow up knowing that it would be the same exact age as the baby she could have had.(So she will probably sit and watch this child grow wondering what could have been...) I cannot imagine spending the remainder of my life wondering what this child might look like, what they would have become. I have a hard time even speaking to her anymore- and would feel unsafe leaving my child with her as I'd be afraid of her depression causing jealousy (possibility of her mentally \"losing it\".)
Also, think about this. All of those people out there that try SO hard to get pregnant and they cannot. It must hurt these people so much to see someone who is able to get pregnant and then to see them end that life. Those people would love nothing more than to be able to create that life, and you would be destroying it. Think about how lucky you are that you can create that life, such a miracle. Think about where you would be at today had your parents decided to terminate your life...

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9 years 10 months ago #2 by kyauch
kyauch replied the topic: Re:my abortion
I recently found out that my sister-in-law had an abortion in April. She's been dating this one guy for about one year. I often ask myself, how could she do that?? Then I ask myself, how could a doctor let her do that?? Knowing that a heart is already beating within the first few days...
It really hit me hard knowing this. I will never look at her the same way ever again. Especially since my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for the past 4 months. It makes me think- Geeze-our little baby could have had a playmate... Not only that, but my mother-in-law is very angry at her. She has often told her daughter when she was growing up that she would help her out if she ever became pregnant. So comes the next question- why, when she was surrounded by such loving family did she still do it?? Her answer- the boyfriend. The boyfriend did not want the baby. It's so difficult to grasp. In my mind- if he doesn't love her enough to keep the baby that they made together, then why is she keeping him around?? The responsibility falls on two people. If you make a baby, be responsible for it, be an adult- even if you are only 15 or whatever. There is so much help out there these days for younger people who need it.
Now, she is being treated for depression. She has a cousin who is the same age as her, and it turns out that they both got pregnant the same month. Only difference is that the cousin decided to keep her baby because she didn't believe in abortion. (Odd thing is is that the cousin was the irresponsible one...) So now the cousin is due in January, and my sister in law is realizing the impact of her decision already. Now she has to watch her cousins baby grow up knowing that it would be the same exact age as the baby she could have had.(So she will probably sit and watch this child grow wondering what could have been...) I cannot imagine spending the remainder of my life wondering what this child might look like, what they would have become. I have a hard time even speaking to her anymore- and would feel unsafe leaving my child with her as I'd be afraid of her depression causing jealousy (possibility of her mentally \"losing it\".)
Also, think about this. All of those people out there that try SO hard to get pregnant and they cannot. It must hurt these people so much to see someone who is able to get pregnant and then to see them end that life. Those people would love nothing more than to be able to create that life, and you would be destroying it. Think about how lucky you are that you can create that life, such a miracle. Think about where you would be at today had your parents decided to terminate your life...

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9 years 10 months ago #3 by loveU
loveU replied the topic: Re:my abortion
I think if you do this you will regret it. You should give this child life at least, I mean after all you were TRYING to make this baby. I can't imagine if I had aborted my daughter, she's everything to me and if the people in my family hadn't supported me then I would have said the hell with them because she is my family just like your baby is.

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9 years 10 months ago #4 by Merla
Merla replied the topic: Re:my abortion
ericklirios is exactly right, dont be afraid of your baby.

One day you will look back on the abortion as the worst decision of your life, and will regret it with everything you have, and know what? It will be too late.

I know it can be scary, and you may not feel up to it, but give your child life, you owe them that much, what happends once they are born you can decide, perhaps give them to someone, or maybe raise them yourself, but killing them shouldnt ever be an option.

As many young mums here will tell you, its hard, but they wouldnt have it any other way.

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9 years 10 months ago #5 by ericklirios
ericklirios replied the topic: Re:my abortion
Hi.

I'm still praying for you. My main issue here is you. Don't do this to yourself. You will have to carry so much guilt and depression if you go through the abortion. There will come a time, if you push through with it, when you will keep asking yourself, \"I wonder how my baby would be now?\" or \"How good it would have been if all my children were here with me\" or \"Maybe this child of mine would feel better if his/her brother/sister were here to take care of him/her.\"

Please. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of fear.

Don't be afraid of a baby.

Be afraid of what turning your back on that baby will do to you.

I will continue to pray for you and I encourage everyone here to do the same.

Erick

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9 years 10 months ago #6 by Merla
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Ambular07,

\"This is not the time\" isnt really a good excuse for murdering your own child... If you cant handle a baby, give them to one of the thousands of couples wanting a baby. Your boyfriend left because of it, but would you really want him back knowing he ran when you needed him most?

Seriously consider what your doing, this isnt just your life anymore, its your childs too, your own flesh and blood. You made that baby, you were mature enough to decide to have sex, means your mature enough to make the right thing. Abortion is murder, and that baby you are carrying, its not a bunch of cells, its a baby, a really baby, it can suck its thumb, and has all its organs. its a little boy or a little girl.

If you have this baby and put it up for adoption, yes it may hurt, but nothing compared to the knowledge that you murdered that perfect little baby.

Make the right choice for your child, dont just think about yourself. Abortion does nothing but hurt you, its not an easy fix, its a lifetime of regret.

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