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The hardest thing- UPDATED! and urgent!

10 years 3 weeks ago #1 by Arya
Arya replied the topic: Re:The hardest thing- UPDATED! and urgent!
It's really you who knows what's best for you and for those around you. Just know that if ever your are going to abort this baby, keep in mind that it somewhat like murder. What's worse is that you're murdering your very own child. Try to talk to your boyfriend's mom about this. Tell her how grateful you are for letting you stay in their home but then you have to tell her your side as well. You know in your heart that you love this child. Who knows, you might actally have a better life when you have the baby. It all depends on how you look at the situation. The baby is a part of you. Wouldn't you want to see your little angel grow into someone so beautiful and so full of life?

If you need more help, dear. I'm right here.:) I'm 17 years old as well so we can click in these kinds of things.

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10 years 3 weeks ago #2 by alexanders_mama
alexanders_mama replied the topic: Re:The hardest thing
Hey...as I said before, that woman does not and will not live your life for you. In the end, the guilt and the conscience will be on you, and you will be the one who will have to deal with it for the rest of your life, wonder whether it was a boy or a girl for the rest of your life.
I was 17, and JUST turned 17, when my son was born, and I was even alone, completely alone. And I'm still here on planet Earth together with my son (touch wood lol), living independently, and I'm halfway through my journalism degree. And if you're going to have support, that's going to make it even easier for you...
We have food to eat, a roof over our heads, and just enjoying the time with my son dancing and reading books and laughing together...I don't know about the prime of my life, and I'm sure I'm missing out on heaps of parties out there (in FACT i know there's an 18th I got invited to right now in a club rite nxt to me), but I'm still having a really decent good time... I'm sure my son's life is more important than that party, because I can go to some other one when I get a night off...
Sry for the rant, I don't know what to say, but listen to your heart. You said you didn't want an abortion. You may want the woman to like you after all she's done, but in the end hopefully she'll come round. In most cases, people do. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART.

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10 years 4 weeks ago #3 by mommy6
mommy6 replied the topic: Re:The hardest thing
well congrats on your preg n its very good that your standing up to him n you know its your rite i think hes scared its the real deal did you try to talk to his mom about his issues maybe you 3 can sit down n talk about it. idk why he owuld go n tell everyone n than act like that unless paople are giving him bad reactions which still isnt there bussiness, i think you def wnat this baby n so does his fam so talk about this with his mom n see what can be done to have him over come this fear hes having n dont put your self in a dangerous sittuion if hes throwing things either.,good luck n cont being a stand up girl good luck!!

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10 years 4 weeks ago #4 by amy.g.111
amy.g.111 replied the topic: Re:The hardest thing

Sounds like you havent had any easy ride with telling the father and how he has responded. Firstly my now ex boyfriend, who dumped me the day I told him I was pregnant, told me to have an abortion. I said I needed to think about it. I have since decided to keep my baby. I have told him but he hasnt responded to my text. So im facing the fact ill be a single mother raising my baby alone. I think you may need to accept that too. Its important that you can atleast raise the baby alone. Having the babys dad around is a bonus. Maybe he needs time to adjust. So give him time, thats what im doing right now. Men take things worse than women and he may feel different as he is not the one carrying the baby. So stick with your choice and best thing is to take each day as it comes.

Take care xx

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10 years 4 weeks ago #5 by alexanders_mama
alexanders_mama replied the topic: Re:The hardest thing
Congrats on the baby!:))
Maybe he's just afraid of how his life will change after the baby's born?
I really don't think he'll commit suicide, that's a really common thing guys say to make girls have abortions, I've never of a case where they actually carried through with their actions.
Give him time to rest on it, but I'd also suggest go out and beginning to make sure you have a strong support network right now.
Hope that helped. All the best xx.

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10 years 1 month ago #6 by kez_mummy_2_skye
kez_mummy_2_skye replied the topic: Re:The hardest thing
first of all congrats to you on the pregnancy. Thats gotta be hard to deal with having a mother think of you like that, her own flesh and blood.
I'm glad you have ppl that will support you with ur decision to keep bubz. She sounds like a sweet lady and at least she isnt one of those that is ramming it down ur throat to get rid of it. Great news, im happy for you!

With your boyfriend, i reckon deep down he is happy he might be one of those guys that doesn't show it....? maybe let him rest on it and he will hopefully be as excited as you. Dont let that \"commit suicide\" statement get to you, obviously those friends know him better and he said it out of the spare of the moment thing.

With this story i think things will turn out perfect for you:)
Good luck with the pregnancy and keep us updated. Love to hear what happens with you guys


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