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10 years 7 months ago #1 by Yolly
Yolly replied the topic: Re:love, advice, help...
So, you are 17 and pregnant again...It is a difficult thing to tell your mom at this stage especially bcos u were pregnant last term as well. I would suggest you try to do things \"right\" this time to \"make up\" for last term's pregnancy.
There are a number of things on your side : Firstly after your first pregnancy, your mom now knows you are sexually active. At least that wont be another thing for her to deal with.
Secondly, your boyfriend participated in making this little baby, so he KNEW what happened last time and yet he STILL continued having sex with you. That means both of ya knew the consequenses and yet still continued the act. If you want to keep your baby - which I pray you will do - he must really accept it. If he tries to convince you to have an abortion, tell him that this baby is INOCENT and does not deserve that. If he can not be a positive contributor towards the situation, he must rather then not be part of this at all. This is a miracle....a tiny litle person growing under your heart... A person who deserves a chance in life. he/she did not ask to be there...now you are his/her mommy and you need to fight your hands off for the safety and happiness for your little baby.
Please stay in touch...you are NOT alone!!!!
Yolly:)

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10 years 7 months ago #2 by LadyT06
LadyT06 replied the topic: Re:love, advice, help...
thank u so very much 4 tellin me ur story. on this site, i can really c how alone and unsupported i am NOT & how so many girls can relate... i'm goin 2 tell my parents this weekend probably. i'm still nervous, but at the same time i have gotten over a lot of my fears and worries about it bcz i know where i stand with myself, my baby, and my God.

luv,
Titi

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10 years 7 months ago #3 by katjah87
katjah87 replied the topic: Re:love, advice, help...
wow i was in that same situation. im 19 and a sophmore in college and im 3months pregnant. im also christian and my mom or ne one expected this from me and they were dissapointed at first. but what i did was i told my aunt which i knew would take it better than my mom and she sat my mom down and talked to her. you can do something like that, u can either be present or just talk to ur mom one on one after she already knows. i also sat down and talked to my pastors about it and everyones real supportive. i thought that everyone was gonna hate me and talk badly about me but none of that happend. especially within the church. i got alot of love from them. you just have to be mature and confront the situation u kno. u already made the choice to have ur baby which is a blessing so talkin to ur mom as soon as possible is the best thing. i was considering abortion too but i came across this site that really changed my mentality. even if ur parents are a little upset now...dont worry theyre still gonna love u and support u no matter what especially if u come from a christian family.

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10 years 7 months ago #4 by LadyT06
LadyT06 replied the topic: Re:love, advice, help...
heyy, i liked the line: \"Not everytime a woman and man have sex, does the woman get pregnant. So when the woman does, you are supposed to accept it, it's a gift from God\". i knew that, but 2 hear it that way wuz more inspiring. i hope everything works out good 4 me too... and u :)

thanX

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10 years 7 months ago #5 by LadyT06
LadyT06 replied the topic: Re:love, advice, help...
thank u so much... ur words were very encouraging. i know my parents will support me, but the hardest part is still goin 2 b tellin them... i jus don't want them 2 feel lyk i'm a bad daughter or jus a big mess-up. and as far as the abstinence-til-marriage thing... i do plan on it. bcz i know the last thing i want is another child or consequence.

appreciate it :)

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10 years 7 months ago #6 by InTheSilence
InTheSilence replied the topic: Re:love, advice, help...
I have VERY strict catholic parents. They were rly upset wen they found out I was pregnant and grounded me for at least 4 months (until the baby is born) from my bf. I cant even call him. Except I see him at skool so there is that. I rly hope ur parents take it better than mine. Good luck!

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