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My boyfriend has just hit me.

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10 years 8 months ago #1 by Meg11
Meg11 replied the topic: Re:My boyfriend has just hit me.
I agree that you need to get away from this guy. Not only for you and the baby but for him also. I left my daughters dad for the same reasons. He never hit me but I almost wish he would have because words seem like they do so much more damage. He left me scared so deep inside and caused me to believe that I was just used up trash and that no one else would ever want to be with me and that I wouldnt find a job and he was gonna take my daughter and I would just end up starving on the street. I finally left him anyways and decided that if all those things were true than that was fine but I couldnt handle one more minute of his control and emotional abuse. well 4 1/2 years later I am alive I have my daughter I dont work now because I just got married in Nov. and my husband lets me stay home with the kids. The lies he told me were not true. I did have to struggle for a while and I learned how to be thrifty with my money and I fell in love with being a mom. Even if it meant that I had to do it alone. So I encourage you to stand up for what is right and dont let him believe that it is ok to throw you around and hit you. If you let him you are really telling him that it is ok to do it. Get away while you can. Dont replace him with some other guy either. Please just take this time to get your life together find a job even if its not the best. Just do what you can to survive and let God take care of the rest. Commit your ways to the Lord and He shall direct your paths. It has worked for me I encourage you to do the same :) lots of love and prayers Meg

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10 years 8 months ago #2 by firstimer7
firstimer7 replied the topic: Re:My boyfriend has just hit me.
Well first of all you are a smart girl for leaving him like you did, that baby is the most importan thing to you right now and thats a good thing. You should really tell your mom about what is going on and i am sure that she wil help out alot. I know that being a single mom can be scary, but girl being a single mom can only make you stronger in the end, and it can tell you that you dont need a man to help you get through the tuff times, because he wasnt thier. But maybe you could talk to him and tell him that if he wants the baby in his life then he needs to straighten up his act and start acting like a father. you know? Tell him the hitting had to stop. BEcause you dont want your baby to go through any of that, and you are not willing to lose the baby becuasehe wants to be a butt head. BUt Good Luck and hope to hear from you soon. You can always write me... IF you want i am here to help/

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10 years 8 months ago #3 by kmurph29
kmurph29 replied the topic: Re:My boyfriend has just hit me.
I told myself that I would never let a man put his hands on me, because I always saw my sister go through that when i was younger. That is really the wrong thing to bring a child into. Once we were at my oldest sisters house with my niece and they were fighting and my little niece got a knife and was about to stab he. please do not put your child through that and don't put yourself through that it is not worth it for anyone. you can make it on your own my mom did it and she had my sister at 16. I hope everything works out for the better. Good luck.

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10 years 9 months ago #4 by sw10231987
sw10231987 replied the topic: Re:My boyfriend has just hit me.
you made the right choice.....im sorry you had to go through that.....i witnessed my mom being hit everyday for our years and i know that is something i would never want to see again......you can raise your child all on your own you are a strong person.......just keep your head up and remember you have a baby to look after now......im sure your family will understand....just talk to them.....and dont hold anything back....good luck

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10 years 9 months ago #5 by bweber
bweber replied the topic: Re:My boyfriend has just hit me.
don't be scared of being a single mom, especially if ur parents will help you take care of the baby...being in that kind of situation is not good for anybody you need to tell someone what he did to you, maybe even the police because that's not right.........and please don't go back to him you are so much better than that........

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10 years 9 months ago #6 by ericklirios
ericklirios replied the topic: Re:My boyfriend has just hit me.
No one, absolutely no one, is allowed to hit you. Even more, no one is allowed to hit your child. That boyfriend of yours didn't jus thit you; he hit your son. At this point, it doesn't matter what his reasons are, the fact of the matter is, until he can deal with that anger of his, he has no right being the father of your child. Put it this way, if he can hit a relatively defenseless pregnant woman and a totally defenseless child inside your womb, what's to prevent him from doing harm to youor baby when the baby is born?

I would normally tell women to be patient with their partners because especially given your ages, he finds himself in a very awkward situation, being forced to be responsible and such and he's looking at the possibility of losing his much valued freedom.

Your case however, is different. Though what I said about guys may still be true for him, what's even more true here is that your first responsibility is to you and your baby. You obviously decided not to get an abortion but if you allow him to continue on this way, it's like you're allowing abortion to take place anyway.

Get your parents' help. They may say things like, \"You got yourself in this. Make it work.\" They'll stop saying that once they see your bruises and the possibility of harm to their grandchild.

If being a single mom is what's necessary to keep you and your child safe, then so be it. Being a single parent is better than a married battered woman with a chld suffering from physical and emotional trauma.

Look at all the girls/women here. A good number of them have gone through single parenthood. They've lived through it and a good number have had some good success with their lives. You can, too. Do not be afraid.

A friend of mine told me this: God will not take you somewhere and leave you there. Be strong and be strong in the Lord.

Take care. Email me anytime if you need to talk more.

Erick

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