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10 years 6 months ago #1 by Meg11
Meg11 replied the topic: Re:don't know what to do.....
You dont have to keep the baby but please dont abort!!!! Sometimes people who want to adopt will house you and take care of all of your expenses while you carry the baby. Look into your options by finding a local pregnancy center or email becky on this site or something but please dont kill your baby.

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10 years 7 months ago #2 by gina lynn
gina lynn replied the topic: Re:don't know what to do.....
im sorry your mother feels that way, but you need to make it clear to her that you want to keep your baby if your pregnant. it would be terrible for her to make you do something you disagree with. also it would be terrible for the innocent baby to suffer. i'll pray for you, but please realize that adoption would be a good option, because at least the baby would be safe and sound and taken care of by a good family even if you cant keep it. please keep us posted on whats going on! good luck

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10 years 7 months ago #3 by goodluckyall
goodluckyall replied the topic: Re:don't know what to do.....
BWeber, as unfortunate as it is, girls get kicked out every day because they're pregnant and most times, no one cares because they believe if you're old enough to raise a baby, you should be old enough to care for it yourself. Many times, this is why girls end up in foster homes while pregnant. They do have an independent living arrangement through the foster system for those 16 and up. You can even have a scholarship for school and subsidy for taking care of your baby. At any rate, it depends on where you live as to whether or not it's legal. In some places, once you're pregnant (esp. over 16), you're an adult. Or maybe all this only pertains in the south where we're infamous for underage marriages and such. :blush:

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10 years 7 months ago #4 by ericklirios
ericklirios replied the topic: Re:don't know what to do.....
First, don't panic regardless of what the doctor eventually tells you. Seek out help where you are. Find likeminded individuals (those who don't beleive in abortion) who can help. Seek out a teacher or guidance counselor in your school. You can also seek the help of people in churches which don't advocate abortion. I know for a fact that Catholic organizations will help you out without even suggesting abortion. They won't even force you to be Catholic. There are other pro-life groups out there that can help you come up with a plan.

Be patient with your mom. She's really scared for you. The moment a mother or father learns that her/his baby is not a baby anymore and is also having a baby, it's nuts. THe first reaction is anger.

HOLD YOUR GROUND. Show your mother that this experience will not show just how much a baby you still are but rather how much a woman you already are. Fine, you don't help out at home and your grades are bad. Start helping ourt at home and study seriously. You have to show her you mean business regardless of whether the father will help or not. SHe needs to see that you will be mature and adult about this and that you are adult enough (though still under 18) to accept your mistake and face the consequences.

She's scared. Help her not to be.

Lastly, pray. Even if you're not religious, it may be time to start being so. In times like these, prayer is where your strength comes from.

Forget abortion. You will be fine if you keep strong and don;t lose your head. There are so many women here in this site that you can look up to.

You will be fine, honey.

Oh, just in case you're really not pregnant, take this as a call to abstain from sex for now.

Erick

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10 years 7 months ago #5 by bweber
bweber replied the topic: Re:don't know what to do.....
ok...so to clear up what tattudemom said...ur mom CAN NOT kick you out BECAUSE u ARE pregnant, that's child endangerment, which is also illegal....if u weren't it's perfectly legal, but not this case since u r pregnant.........

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10 years 7 months ago #6 by Lats
Lats replied the topic: Re:don't know what to do.....
like tattudemom said u really need to sort out a plan, where u will live if she duznt let u stay there, how u will survive financially, all that sorta stuff. If any of ur friends are mums ask if they have ne baby stuff they no longer require, or if friends have young siblings ask ur friends parents. i pretty much didnt have to buy ANYTHING for when my baby was born just coz of everything no one wanted nemore it was great. but yea it is NOT her decision whther or not u have ur baby, if u think u can do it without her help then go for it keep ur baby.

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