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I need advice.. someone please..

8 years 3 months ago #1 by pink86
pink86 replied the topic: Re:I need advice.. someone please..
hi my name is annemarie and i am new to this site i read your story and i found out i was pregnant with my first child when i was 21 when i told my boyfriend i was pregnant he just looked at me with shock on his face he dident even think about it he just turned around and told me to go to the doctors the next day and get an abortion i was completely shocked at him and my friends and family were against him saying that i cant do that so i decided to keep my baby wether he wanted to be involved or not so its a year later now and im happy with my decission and i love my baby son and as soon as my son was born my boyfriend came around to the idea of being a father and he loves his son more than anything now you should do wat your heart is telling you to do and dont listen to what other people tell you you know differently and if you have an abortion you will regret it for the rest of your life a child has the right to come into this world no matter what so go with your heart your boyfrind and his mum will come around to the idea of a new baby as soon as they see he or she they will forget what they ever said to you and they should apologise to you listen to your heart your friends and your family you might be young but you will be able to take care of the baby and be happy hope everything goes ok for you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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8 years 6 months ago #2 by BlondieBabe22
BlondieBabe22 replied the topic: Re:I need advice.. someone please..
Don't listen to anything that anyone on either side of the family tells you. You need to make that decision by yourself. My view, I think you should keep the baby, it gives you a good challenge and helps everyone grow up faster, sometimes good, sometimes not. It depends completely on the situation. Your boyfriend shouldn't be saying to get an abortion, he contributed too, therefore he has just as much responsibility as you do. Abortion is not a form of birth control, and nor do I believe it should ever be used that way. Your 18 years old, I think you will be just fine with having the baby. Do what your heart tells you. I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 16 years old and had her when I was 17. Yeah there are challenges, but that is life. If your boyfriend has a problem with keeping your baby, well then he probably isn't the right kind of guy to stick with. Either way he needs to help you out. I always here of girls getting extremely depressed after an abortion, and that is what happened with my cousin. Do what your heart tells you and do what you believe is right. Don't let anyone make the decision for you.

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8 years 7 months ago #3 by Ce3 Pr3tty
Ce3 Pr3tty replied the topic: Re:I need advice.. someone please..
I believe you want to keep your baby and if thats what you really want to do then do it forget what anybody elses says people said alot of negative things to me and i cut them off maybe they'll come around later but there are places that can help you out and sites like these . I really dont like the idea of abortion unless you have no choice and when your scared you may want to choose that option even though deep inside you want your baby but there is hope and there is a way to get through everything with the help of God.

Anyways good luck girl !

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8 years 7 months ago #4 by scariteIS26weeks!
scariteIS26weeks! replied the topic: Re:I need advice.. someone please..
You trust your instinct, you keep that baby.
Listen to what she said " he was the best thing that ever happened to me "
do not listen to anyone except for your self and people who support that decision. You are already on the right path.
You listen to your heart, and you already know what you want. You stick with that please.
No one can make you do anything. She will love that baby when she/he comes.
Her son knows what sex does, it makes babies.
He choose to have sex with you so he can take responsibility you already are.
So you make the doctors appointment, get the vitamins and start thinking for you and your baby.
I'm very proud that lots of the girls on here including you know what is right.
I promise you will never regret your baby, and you know that as well.
If you need someone to talk to I am here and so are all the other girls, we can help you get through this pregnancy. If you need support we will support. Congratulations and good luck.
Feel free too email me.

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8 years 7 months ago #5 by butterflyzhigh
butterflyzhigh replied the topic: Re:I need advice.. someone please..
hey ,
I'm christine im 21 years old and 3 months pregnant. The baby is yours and nobody elses you can do it on your own. STAY STRONG! you can do it on your own... people do it everyday. There are plenty of programs that will help you get food and medical care and everything else you need. God gave you the gift of life, TAKE IT it's a beautiful thing PROMISE! look at all these women who care about you and your unborn child that is a sign---> you are not alone wether the boy stays or not. He had the drive to have sex and now he is scared of the consequence. He might come around if you keep him up on the progression of the baby...TRY IT, WITH LOVE christine ... talk to you later

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8 years 8 months ago #6 by kez_mummy_2_skye
kez_mummy_2_skye replied the topic: Re:I need advice.. someone please..
I'm going to agree with the others again.
You want this baby but you have the added stress of them telling you what to do which shouldnt be the case. Geez your not that young. I had my first at 19 and i didnt feel young.
Anyway i dont think age is the barrier. Its maturity.

Men handle things like this in different ways maybe he wasnt thinking straight. sounds to me like he is warming to the idea but just scared about it. Get a scan and listen to the heartbeat and i bet it will change peoples minds.

The other option is Adoption but if you go with Abortion against your will, you will probably end up with depression which will end up with your relationship crumbling so choose wisely.

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