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I'm PREGNANT!Posted by ncpprincess in Untagged |
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Today, October 28, 2009, I found out for sure I was pregnant. The bomb hit me with tears of joy and tears of pain. Joy for the fact that I was carrying God's child, a living thing, a part of me. Pain for the fact that my mom says I have to get an abortion.
I don't want an abortion...oh no way! I believe abortion is the worst way to deal with pregnancy regardless of the child'sage. You see, I'm only a freshie in high school, and I know I shouldn't have had sex in the first place. That's my fault for making a dumb decision so being pregnant is my decision and will be my responsibility to deal with...
But to be told that I HAVE to have an abortion kills me. I'd rather give it up for adoption, but I would never want to take away my child's life, or any even anyone elses' for that matter.
Being the victim of a forced-abortion is terrible...and I'm in so much more pain than if I was in labor right now.
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You dont have to get an abortion. It is your child, therefore your decision. Your mother cant tell you what to do with your baby.
Don't let anyone tell you that you have to get an abortion. It's your baby, it's your choice. Good luck.
It really is the worst. I never knew that being forced into an abortion would be so horrible. But now I can't seem to get over it and forgive myself or my parents. Even though I was a senior in high school and my parents told me that college would help me forget the pain... it really hasn't. I constantly think about how far along I would be and how much I love my baby.
Hola Princess:
I´m father of three kids, but we lost other three, two still born and one two days after she was born (Daniela), so we know what it feels like to lost a kid or to have them, and you are making the rigth decision, keeping the child God has given you. Please tell your Mom that appearances or future plans are the less important thing in this unexpected situation. Accepting to abort will carry tremendous damage to your integrity and well being, and it will show in very different ways, both psichological and phisical. I know so, because I´m studing a Master´degree to Defend Life, but also because as a young I was careless had intercourse to a girl I meet for one nigth, and never knew if she was "properly protected" or we indeed had a kid... It´s been 30 years since that happend and I still wonder with pain if my son/daugther was born, and well taken care off or if she aborted him/her.
If you belong to a Church, go the the Pastor or Prist and ask him to teach you to pray for stregnth, and to understand God´s will. If you are Catholic, read about Mother Mary, whom at her time accepted her pregnancy despite the fact that she could had been kill for getting pregnant before getting married. she will give you the stength that you will need, to keep you baby till he/her is born.
God Bless you, you, your baby and your Mom will be in our prayers,
Alejandro (México)
I´m father of three kids, but we lost other three, two still born and one two days after she was born (Daniela), so we know what it feels like to lost a kid or to have them, and you are making the rigth decision, keeping the child God has given you. Please tell your Mom that appearances or future plans are the less important thing in this unexpected situation. Accepting to abort will carry tremendous damage to your integrity and well being, and it will show in very different ways, both psichological and phisical. I know so, because I´m studing a Master´degree to Defend Life, but also because as a young I was careless had intercourse to a girl I meet for one nigth, and never knew if she was "properly protected" or we indeed had a kid... It´s been 30 years since that happend and I still wonder with pain if my son/daugther was born, and well taken care off or if she aborted him/her.
If you belong to a Church, go the the Pastor or Prist and ask him to teach you to pray for stregnth, and to understand God´s will. If you are Catholic, read about Mother Mary, whom at her time accepted her pregnancy despite the fact that she could had been kill for getting pregnant before getting married. she will give you the stength that you will need, to keep you baby till he/her is born.
God Bless you, you, your baby and your Mom will be in our prayers,
Alejandro (México)
Hello How Old are u????? well that really doesnt matter, please dont have an abortion I had one 3 years ago I havent been happy have your baby if you have the abortion your gona live the rest of your life knowing you kill an inocent baby like I did for been stupid I wish every sec. I have never done what I did..........Hope you make the right decison ....
Miranda
Miranda
did you know that you don't have to have an abortion if you don't want to even though we are young we still make the final decision and they cant take the baby from you unless you consent to it....i don't believe n abortion either..congratulations and i hope everything works out for you!!
hunny mom was like that when i told i was pregoshe wanted me and my boyfriend to give it up only cuz im still in high school and i just turned 18.im almost 4 months now and my dad still dosent know. what i told my mom is she was 18 and prego with me so she cant get mad at me. and that its my body and if i want to keep the baby i will mom and i didnt talk for a few days. than when we actaully talked she argeed with me and now she cant wait for the baby to come. hunny your mom will be upset for a wail but she will get over it. just do what you think is the best for you and your baby.
I'm so sorry you are going through this! Thats not right that your mother would do that to you! Its your body not hers! tell her you want to give it up for adoption not kill it...Find someone that can't have a baby & show your mom that you are willing to go through with it! Having a child is really hard & i'm sure your mom is just looking out for you but it should be your decision not hers!
Hi ncpprincess,
Tears of joy and tears of pain...congratulations on the new little life you carry...but I am so sorry to hear that your mom wants you to have an abortion. The hurt in your words is clear.
It's understandable, I suppose, for parents to say unhelpful, painful things when they are in shock. Your mom may change her mind once she has had some time to calm down. In the meantime, have you thought of calling one of the numbers listed on this site? The counsellors on the other end can help you think through how to talk with your mom and can point you towards resources and support for yourself and your baby.
Loving your mom doesn't mean you have to have an abortion. I pray that you will find a way to honour her while doing the best for you and your child, and I pray that your mom comes to accept your pregnancy.
Please keep us posted.xx
Tears of joy and tears of pain...congratulations on the new little life you carry...but I am so sorry to hear that your mom wants you to have an abortion. The hurt in your words is clear.
It's understandable, I suppose, for parents to say unhelpful, painful things when they are in shock. Your mom may change her mind once she has had some time to calm down. In the meantime, have you thought of calling one of the numbers listed on this site? The counsellors on the other end can help you think through how to talk with your mom and can point you towards resources and support for yourself and your baby.
Loving your mom doesn't mean you have to have an abortion. I pray that you will find a way to honour her while doing the best for you and your child, and I pray that your mom comes to accept your pregnancy.
Please keep us posted.xx
Hi ncpprincess, i know it might be out of my place to offer you my advice as i am a guy, but my girlfriend was just recently having similar feelings to you, she was overjoyed that she was carrying a tiny human inside her, and so was i. it was the most awesome feeling in the world knowing that i had made a child with the girl that i love, unfortunately she had a miscarriage, and now i feel the opposite as i was when she was pregnant, it feels like my hearts been ripped in half. Anyway i just thought that i may be able to help somehow as i am completely against abortion, like you it hurts me so much seeing a childs life having to be taken away and could not stand it if a child that i created were to be taken away, i can see how your mother feels but if you are really sure that you want to have this baby and maybe put it up for adoption then maybe you might be able to convince your mum to let you, try showing her some videos on the internet about abortions, some of them are so shocking that she might change her mind, try showing her this, http://www.dailymotion.com/vid...ver-1_news
also, do you think that you might consider keeping the baby? this is just my advice again feel free to take it or just ignore it but you have to think about alot of things if this is your decision, things such as your education, just so you realise that if you decide to keep it its going to be a huge responsibility and demand your total attention and dedication, you will need your family's support, money is a huge concern, it will cost tens of thousands of dollars a year to raise a child, and also you will need the fathers support im not trying to convince you not to keep it if it is your decision, just making sure you know what its going to be like.
Anyway just thought i might be able to try and help, search the internet for photos and videos that might convince your mum.
Good luck with whatever decision you choose, hope it all goes well for you.
Ben.
also, do you think that you might consider keeping the baby? this is just my advice again feel free to take it or just ignore it but you have to think about alot of things if this is your decision, things such as your education, just so you realise that if you decide to keep it its going to be a huge responsibility and demand your total attention and dedication, you will need your family's support, money is a huge concern, it will cost tens of thousands of dollars a year to raise a child, and also you will need the fathers support im not trying to convince you not to keep it if it is your decision, just making sure you know what its going to be like.
Anyway just thought i might be able to try and help, search the internet for photos and videos that might convince your mum.
Good luck with whatever decision you choose, hope it all goes well for you.
Ben.
hi
please dont get an abortion, no matter what your mother said! You can give the baby up for adoption, there is thousands of people (like me) who cant have kids.............. and would be to happy to get a baby!!
Annie :)
please dont get an abortion, no matter what your mother said! You can give the baby up for adoption, there is thousands of people (like me) who cant have kids.............. and would be to happy to get a baby!!
Annie :)
you dont have to get an abortion. its your child, your decision. You obviously already love your baby and from the stories that i have read on here, aborting it will destroy you. Your mom has no say whether or not you keep your baby unless you let her
Im so sorry to here what your going through. Good luck in everything and just be strong
Im 16 and 10 weeks pregnant. found out when i was 4 weeks, my mum said i HAD to have an abortion too. It isnt what i want, so i told her she HAD a choice, either support me or i'll do it with my boyfriend on my own. Nobody has the right to tell you to terminate your pregnancy. Its YOUR choice and it has to be the right one for you, or you'll regret it.
Either way, Good luck. x
Either way, Good luck. x
I really hope that I am not late with this comment.... Even though I have never been through this I really wanted to tell you to please be strong for your baby. I know you are young, very young but that baby growing in you needs all your help and your love. Stand up to your mom and I am not saying is going to be easy but give your baby a voice and tell her "NO" I have 2 girls a 3 year old and a 8 month old, every day my 3 year old tells me "mommy I luv you so much" every time my 8 month old smiles I know why people say that being a mother is a blessing. Even at 26 and married it sometimes gets hard, but hearing that from my daughter it makes it all better. Please be strong trust me when your mom sees your beautiful baby she will regret and repent of ever even thinking about wanting u to get an abortion. You will be in my prayers. Hope to hear from you soon. My mom always tells me "honey I love your girls more that I love you, Because they are my baby's babies"
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