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Eventually, I felt like I had no choice, my parents wouldn't understand if I told them, and sure I had my friend, but beyond emotional support
they couldn't really do anything. So I called to go for a medical and
made my first appointment which was to get my blood drawn and get an
ultrasound, during which I not only saw the heartbeat, but the doctor
also told me it looked like it was a girl. I left the clinic totally
emotional and torn apart, of course on the outside I acted like it was
ok. On the day of my abortion I was shaking and felt so sick, and the
long wait in the clinic didn't help.
Dear Becky -- When I was 15 I was so in love with my boyfriend Destin. We were almost
completely inseparable. We did everything together from laying on the
grass in the park staring at the sky to staying up late at each other's
houses and watch movies. We would always hold each other, cuddle, and
kiss but hadn't had sex. I was a virgin and he respected that and never
pressured me into it.
One night when I was at his house for one of our "movie nights" he was
kissing me and holding me and I knew at that point, I was ready. If
anyone I wanted to lose my virginity to him so by the end of that night
i was no longer a virgin but that was also the night my life wouldn't be
the same...
My story starts July 12th 2000, the day I met my neighbor Fernando.
Well that day was his 16th birthday and I was 12. I went to the
party and we started to know each other. He was awesome and I had crush
on him that same day. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said YES
immediately.
The relationship was amazing -- we were made for each other .
I was just a girl but he treated me like a woman and I loved that. The following year,
he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him. He was now 17 and I 13. I said NO
because I was too little and I didn't feel prepared at that moment.
Fortunately, he didn't insist on that until...
Dear Becky -- my name is Cherish and when I was sixteen I found out that my life
would forever be changed, I had been dating my boyfriend for about a
year when we found out that I was pregnant. We actually knew already.
But the news was told to me when I went in to get an abortion, yes an
abortion. I was about 10 weeks and just knew that my mom would kill me
if she found out that I was pregnant.
So the day of the abortion I went to the clinic had my blood drawn and
then was placed in this little white cold room. Moments later the
doctor came in and introduced himself and explained what he would be
doing.
Dear Becky, I have been coming to your site a lot recently, looking for answers and encouragement. Sometimes I think I know what I should do, and at other
times, I'm still at a complete loss. Here's the situation:
I am currently 10 weeks pregnant. I am a sophomore in college, and will
be working, going to school, and being Mommy if I end up having this
child. I thought I would be ok, my boyfriend promised me he would be
there. But now, he is completely out of the picture.
Still there was something wrong. I could do nothing but think about
life with the baby. I knew I could do it. I knew it and I knew he
would be there. I felt so hopeless. I told my mom a few days later and
then my dad. And I was pushed to have an abortion, immediatly, because
they just "want the best for me".
A week later we went for an ultrasound to start the process of a
non-surgical abortion. My mom waiting in the lobby while my boyfriend
came with me through everything. The ultrasound said I was six and a
half weeks pregnant about three weeks farther along than I had thought.
Evan and I had been dating for almost a year. We were made for each other. We spent long hours together, enjoying the simple things - watching clouds go by, the sun setting, a vanilla ice cream cone on a hot day. Unlike other couples, sex wasn't the magic answer for love. We held hands, and we kissed. We rarely had sex. In fact, I was a virgin until the night we conceived. While I wish I had saved my body for marriage, I loved Evan, and he loved me. I decided maybe it was okay.
But that little pink line. Far from an inch thick. Just a little, undeserving pink line. Yet it revealed so much.
One month after my 17th birthday, I found out I was pregnant. I had suspected I was but on May 4th, 2005, I knew for sure. I told my boyfriend and he was scared and worried about the future. He told me that he would support any decision that I made.
...you know there are going to be hard times and that's the same with any
life whether or not you have a child, but trust me, all the happy times
definetly pay off. And if your afraid of your mothers, fathers, or
even boyfriends opinions...
After being sick for 3 months following the abortion and going to
counseling because I was on the brink of suicide, the baby's father had
also gone crazy. And one night he came over and told me he wanted to
talk.
He pulled me to the back yard and raped me right behind my house and
said, "this is what you get for killing my baby, I hope you're pregnant
again." And sure enough, I was, but didn't tell my mom the real story
because I felt that it was really my fault that he went crazy and I
deserved it.
I just recently found this website and wanted to share my story. My ex.
boyfriend Rich and I, were going out for 2 years. It was a bad
relationship, very violent and one sided but we made it to the 2 year
mark! On our 2 year anniversary is when I think I conceived. When I
missed my period, I automatically knew there was something wrong. Rich drove me to get a test and quickly confirmed my fears. We were
both upset but Rich told me that he would support whatever I decided to
do. I automatically knew I would keep this baby, Rich said it was my
choice and he would accept my decision.
Dear Becky -- On February 26th, 2006 I was in a really bad
car accident. I was life-flighted to Childrens Hospital
where I stayed for 2 1/2 weeks. I lost mobility in my left arm. I can
only move my fingers and wrist. After almost 3 months of physical
therapy, my doctor decided to try surgery. On May 30th, 2006, I went
back to Children's Hospital. They did many tests on me and...
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Dear Becky 
Eventually, I felt like I had no choice, my parents wouldn't understand if I told them, and sure I had my friend, but beyond emotional support
they couldn't really do anything. So I called to go for a medical and
made my first appointment which was to get my blood drawn and get an
ultrasound, during which I not only saw the heartbeat, but the doctor
also told me it looked like it was a girl. I left the clinic totally
emotional and torn apart, of course on the outside I acted like it was
ok. On the day of my abortion I was shaking and felt so sick, and the
long wait in the clinic didn't help.
Dear Becky -- When I was 15 I was so in love with my boyfriend Destin. We were almost
completely inseparable. We did everything together from laying on the
grass in the park staring at the sky to staying up late at each other's
houses and watch movies. We would always hold each other, cuddle, and
kiss but hadn't had sex. I was a virgin and he respected that and never
pressured me into it.
My story starts July 12th 2000, the day I met my neighbor Fernando.
Well that day was his 16th birthday and I was 12. I went to the
party and we started to know each other. He was awesome and I had crush
on him that same day. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said YES
immediately.
Dear Becky -- my name is Cherish and when I was sixteen I found out that my life
would forever be changed, I had been dating my boyfriend for about a
year when we found out that I was pregnant. We actually knew already.
But the news was told to me when I went in to get an abortion, yes an
abortion. I was about 10 weeks and just knew that my mom would kill me
if she found out that I was pregnant.
Dear Becky, I have been coming to your site a lot recently, looking for answers and encouragement. Sometimes I think I know what I should do, and at other
times, I'm still at a complete loss. Here's the situation:
Still there was something wrong. I could do nothing but think about
life with the baby. I knew I could do it. I knew it and I knew he
would be there. I felt so hopeless. I told my mom a few days later and
then my dad. And I was pushed to have an abortion, immediatly, because
they just "want the best for me".
Evan and I had been dating for almost a year. We were made for each other. We spent long hours together, enjoying the simple things - watching clouds go by, the sun setting, a vanilla ice cream cone on a hot day. Unlike other couples, sex wasn't the magic answer for love. We held hands, and we kissed. We rarely had sex. In fact, I was a virgin until the night we conceived. While I wish I had saved my body for marriage, I loved Evan, and he loved me. I decided maybe it was okay.
One month after my 17th birthday, I found out I was pregnant. I had suspected I was but on May 4th, 2005, I knew for sure. I told my boyfriend and he was scared and worried about the future. He told me that he would support any decision that I made.
After being sick for 3 months following the abortion and going to
counseling because I was on the brink of suicide, the baby's father had
also gone crazy. And one night he came over and told me he wanted to
talk.
I just recently found this website and wanted to share my story. My ex.
boyfriend Rich and I, were going out for 2 years. It was a bad
relationship, very violent and one sided but we made it to the 2 year
mark! On our 2 year anniversary is when I think I conceived. When I
missed my period, I automatically knew there was something wrong. Rich drove me to get a test and quickly confirmed my fears. We were
both upset but Rich told me that he would support whatever I decided to
do. I automatically knew I would keep this baby, Rich said it was my
choice and he would accept my decision.
Dear Becky -- On February 26th, 2006 I was in a really bad
car accident. I was life-flighted to Childrens Hospital
where I stayed for 2 1/2 weeks. I lost mobility in my left arm. I can
only move my fingers and wrist. After almost 3 months of physical
therapy, my doctor decided to try surgery. On May 30th, 2006, I went
back to Children's Hospital. They did many tests on me and...
"I had the abortion and paid for it all my life." 
