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Nov 03
2009

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Posted by: Kitten.16 on Nov 03, 2009

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Kitten.16

Wow first time writing.. My name's Kit and I'm 16, I'm six months pregnant on Nov. 8th and right now I'm dealing with having H1N1. I'm pretty much over the worst of it though and it helped having my baby nudge me along. I live with my parents, my boyfriend broke up with me after he found out I wanted to keep the baby. He's 22. He now has a new girlfriend who threatened to make

me lose the baby if she ever saw me trying to contact him. On October 16th he brought me to my doctor's appointment and then left me outside of walmart for 7 hours, saying he'd be back in 30 min. I left my ultrasound pictures in his truck and no matter how many times I beg him, he won't give them back. Recently he contacted me saying he wasn't sure if he loved his girlfriend and that he made a big mistake breaking up with me... But I'm not sure I want to go back with him, after everything he did. There's been someone else helping me though, I like him and he says he likes me too, he doesn't care if I'm pregnant. I'm still going to school and it's getting pretty hard with everyone talking about me and spreading rumors, but I've learned who my friends are that way. Everyone keeps talking about how I should've aborted my baby, but I know I couldn't have, I already love him/her and nothing would have been able to replace that. I may not be ready, but I'm slowly making my way towards being ready.


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luna23
luna23 says...
written by luna23 , November 06, 2009
don't let your boyfriend or his girlfriend mess up your life the most important thing rite now in your life is that baby and don't give up! congrats
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written by luna23 , November 06, 2009
ya like i said don't let them stop u and if u really like and trust this other guy then go for it but make sure that he won't do the same thing at the end

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Gwen123 says...
written by Gwen123 , November 07, 2009
im very glade your not listening to everyone and aborting your child. i had that cross my mind once until i found out i was going to have twins i was 16 when my little ones were born and they are the joy of my life. you will be able to make it threw you do not need a man to help you i may not know you but i believe in you. good luck sweetheart
-Love Gwen
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Stockton09 says...
written by Stockton09 , November 07, 2009
Your a really strong girl. I myself am having a baby boy. I can't go to public schools anymore because of all the threats. The babys daddy and I are getting married December 13, and having our little boy March 2. God luck to you, know that there are people there for you. I know you will make the right choice for yourself.
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delyciouzxma says...
written by delyciouzxma , November 08, 2009
Hey girl. I'm sorry you have to deal with all this without the support of your baby daddy but just stay strong. And judging from what you've said alone, you shouldn't go back to him. Pregnancy is already a stressful time and clearly he's not serious about committing to you at this time. He's just gonna keep going in and out of your life and right now you need consistency and peace. Try and reach out to people in your life that you know care for you and eliminate all the people bringing you down. Hope you recover from the flu soon and wish you the best.
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written by OhSoPC , November 09, 2009
My heart truly breaks reading your story.

I got pregnant when I was 15, but I aborted. I've never regretted it, because that's because I knew for sure I did not want to be pregnant or be a teen mother. You, too, know exactly what you want, even though it's opposite of what I personally wanted.

I see nothing has changed in the ten years I've been out of high school. People there are mean-spirited and will taunt and tease, but don't let that get you down. You will need to have much courage in the next few months. You'll be on a roller coaster ride with the father of your child. Protect you heart, first and foremost. Since you've made the decision to be a mother, that child is what comes first and he must respect you as the girl that will have his baby. He needs to be supportive of you, even if he isn't with you. Do not worry too much about the romantic, "being together" part.

There will be people that will talk about you NO MATTER what you decide to do. If you abort, people will talk about you for aborting. If you keep it, people will wonder why you kept it. If you give it up for adoption, people will wonder how you could give up your own baby. I know it's hard, but don't worry about other people. You're the one that has to live with the choice you make...NOT THEM.

I hope that helped...

Stay Strong

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written by hollyr21 , November 09, 2009
good on you, I was the same age with my first child hes now 5 and has two little sisters It is a long hard road and for me I still cant see the end but I already know its worth it, take it from someone whos had the best of both worlds I have lost and gained childeren. Just dont let anything stop you believing that you WILL be the best mum, and not just the best mum you can be but the best there is and ever will be. Good luck!
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written by wannabmama , November 12, 2009
I am glad to hear that you are keeping the baby. You need to move forward and forget about that guy. His girlfriend is probably just talking crap. She is most likely just worried that he will want a part of the childs life.Don't listen to the negative things that people are going to say. That is the last thing you need to deal with right now. Specially after being sick. Just focus on your and the baby's health. Stay calm and do not let silly little things get you down.
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