She Filled Me with Strength
Written by Caroline
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Hi my name is Caroline and I got pregnant at the age of 14. I could not believe it when I did the pregnancy test - nothing felt real. I really did not know what to do. I did not have a great relationship with my mum and the father was long gone so I spoke to my sister who was very supportive.
I went through the usual options and decided to keep my baby. At 15 I had a beautiful baby girl. it was very difficult being a mum when I was only a child and I had alot of issues going on at the time. My mum looked after my daughter for about a month because I felt I was not good enough but being without her depressed me so I got my daughter and we moved into a bed and breakfast. Well I made mistakes along the way and you learn very quickly to grow up and become responsible.
I wish there was alot more help out there for me I felt so alone at times. But when I was at my lowest I would gaze into her eyes and it filled me with strength. She kept me going because she needed me. I am now 34 and my daughter is nearly 19 we have a wonderful relationship and she has brought me so much joy. She is in her 3rd year at college studying performing arts and I am a full time carer, which she helps me with. I am so proud of her and she praises me for boing such a good job and loves the fact that im a young mum.
I'm so glad I chose to keep my baby. I think that if you are going to be a young mum then the first thing is to accept its not going to be easy and secondly accept any help you can get. There is no room to feel to proud. If anybody wants to ask me anything please feel free and I wish you all good luck.
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written by nena12 , September 07, 2009
it is good that you decided to keep your baby at an early age. i have this friend that got preg. at 14 to but she aborted. now shes almost 18 and she regrets the entire thing she never stops thinking bout that baby and how it would look. it sounds like you and your daughter have a good relationship. i think thats the best thing between a mother and a child.
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written by Ogies , September 07, 2009
I admire your courage. I myself doubt that I`ll ever be so brave. I dont nearly have half the courage that you had and still have. You gave "being a mom" a new name. I wish all young girls would follow your example.
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written by bunny88 , September 14, 2009
what happened to your baby girls father? xxx
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written by shelbiehayes , September 14, 2009
hey im shelbie and im 14 im glad that im not the only one out there too,
me and my bf have been togehter for a while now and im a little worried and scared that i may be pregant i have not come on to my period yet i am 5days late, im also worried what my family would think.
me and my bf have spoken about this and what we both would want if i was pregant he said he would stick by my side though what ever choice we choose, the only thing im worried about is whatmy family may think my sister was also a young mother too and her little boy is adorablee.
i just hope that someone could give me a little advise on what i could do if so this would be great and i would be soo greatful.
thankyouu
xx
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me and my bf have been togehter for a while now and im a little worried and scared that i may be pregant i have not come on to my period yet i am 5days late, im also worried what my family would think.
me and my bf have spoken about this and what we both would want if i was pregant he said he would stick by my side though what ever choice we choose, the only thing im worried about is whatmy family may think my sister was also a young mother too and her little boy is adorablee.
i just hope that someone could give me a little advise on what i could do if so this would be great and i would be soo greatful.
thankyouu
xx
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written by lizzie , September 17, 2009
i admire ur courage as well.and as we all knw everything happens for a reason,ur gettin pregnant at age 14 was truly a blessing in disguise.God bless u xxxx
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written by Alisha_Reece , October 04, 2009
Hi there , iam happy that you desided to keep your baby , my mum got pregnant with me at the age of 14 , am quite glad she did as 3 months after she gave bith to me my father was murderd 
giid luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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written by mkayy94 , October 22, 2009
well im 14 and i think im pregnant ive missed my period for 8 days and im scared.. and on top of all that my boyfriend ive been with for almost two years.. well we broke up for about 3 months and he started dating this other girl and they broke up and now we are back together and turns out her got her pregnant. so he has one baby on the way it would be horrible for me to be pregnant too.. im so scared.. i dont even know where to begin to see if i am pregnant i took a pregnancy test 2 days ago and it said neg. but i dont know.. help?
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written by J x , November 15, 2009
im 14, and might be pregnant, my boyfriend whos 16 says whaever happens hes there for me and we have plans for the future. only thing is im really scared i missed my period.
but a test i took a week ago said negative but im still having pregnancy signs. i cant talk to my parents about this because they would hate me if i told them, and my dad would probably stop me from seeing my boyfriend, i couldnt do this without my boyfriend though because i love him soo much and we are kinda engaged.
i wouldnt want an abortion though, im really scared can somebody please help?? xx
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but a test i took a week ago said negative but im still having pregnancy signs. i cant talk to my parents about this because they would hate me if i told them, and my dad would probably stop me from seeing my boyfriend, i couldnt do this without my boyfriend though because i love him soo much and we are kinda engaged.
i wouldnt want an abortion though, im really scared can somebody please help?? xx
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written by pipandjaide , November 23, 2009
Good on u. i fell pregnant at 15 and i now couldnt imange my life with out her! it is hard but good on u for deciding to keep it.
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written by ereyes3 , January 20, 2010
I also got pregnant at age 14, me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years before we had my three month old daughter. I didnt tell my parents until I was 4 Months pregnant. My dad and his family was by my side the whole time, my mom took it really hard, but now loves her first granddaugher. My boyfriend loves our little girl and sees her every weekend. It is very hard to be a teen mother, trying to go to school, and watching a baby. I encouge people to continue going to school.
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written by xena , January 30, 2010
thats great ! kip it up , 
im so proud of u .,
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written by shelbiehayes , February 08, 2010
i am 14.. i might be pregnant i have missed a period, me and my boyfriend are really strong we have been through everything together we have been together nealy a year now and i cant live my life with out him he means the world to me and he said he will stand by my side through every step of the way, but the onlt thing i am worried about is if i am how willi tell my parents im scared that my parents wont want anything to do with me. if i am pregnant i will be keeping the baby there is no way i would get rid of it.
i was pregnant a couple of months ago but i lost the baby
i just need to know how i could tell my paretns?? HELPP?????
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i was pregnant a couple of months ago but i lost the baby
i just need to know how i could tell my paretns?? HELPP?????
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written by vampire_girl19959 , February 24, 2010
Good for you! I'm only 14 and I'm really worried I'm pregnant. I've taken two negative tests and had two periods, but I've had loads of pregnancy symptoms and I am well aware that I could still be pregnant despite the two periods. My boyfriend turned 16 last month, and although he'd rather I had an abortion he said he would stick through it all with me and I know he will. I want the baby but I'm really scared, my family are either going to be really mad or really disappointed in me and they will hate my boyfriend... I can't go to the doctors cos it's so far away and I have no way of getting there and I'm really scared :S Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Reading these stories is the only thing that gives me enough courage to get through all of this, and I want to say thank you for sharing your experiences Thanks xxx
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written by dorothyhouston , March 07, 2010
Hi, my name is Dorothy. I am 18 years old and ever since I can remember, I have wanted to be a mom! I currently now am waiting to miss a period, so I can too find out if I'm pregnant. My boyfriend and I have been together for only 7 months, but have gone through so much, including a previous pregnancy and a miscarriage. My family was supportive and helpful no matter what, where his was destructive and verbally abusive! Exactly 2 months later, on December 12th, 2009, I miscarried. I still to this day wonder what I would look like at almost 5 MONTHS pregnant! I hope I am pregnant, despite the fact, financially I am not in the right spot, nor is my boyfriend, but we know we can do it if I am! The one thing I have to say to all of you ( those who have had their babies and those who are questioning whether or not to have it or whether or not you're pregnant ) is this: Don't give up! Times may get rough and times may be glorious, but the only wrong thing you can do in this situation is give up! STANDUPGIRLS! Don't give in to those lies and those destructive comments about you being so young and pregnant. It was a choice you made to have sex at that age, it was neither wrong or right of you. It was your choice and no one can or should get angry with you. Parents will eventually get over it. I remember calling my dad and telling him. He was angry at first, but when he came to pick me up, he looked at me, hugged me and said, you'll be a great mum! I cried. Then I called my mum and told her! She was disappointed, but knew I would be able to handle it! Then about 15 minutes she called back and said: " I am so excited to have my first biological grandchild! I know you'll be a great mum and I'm so glad to call you my daughter!" Things that may seem bad in the beginner, may turn out to be 10x or even 1000x better then expected. If fear is the only stopping you young ladies from telling your parents, your boyfriends, or even your best friend, I'm telling you right now, swallow, breath, count to ten and tell them! That's all you can do!
Good luck and I hope the best for all of you!
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Good luck and I hope the best for all of you!
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written by LaMalosa432 , April 18, 2010
THiS REMiNDS ME S0000 MUCH 0F ME
i WAS 14 WHEN i F0UND 0UT iM PREGNANT
iM N0W 15 AND iM 17WEEKS N0W
THE FATHER iS C0MPLETELY 0UT 0F B0TH 0F 0UR LiVES
BUT i STiLL HAVE MY FAMiLY, FRiENDS, AND G0D!
AND THiS ST0RiE HAS HELPED ME SEE WHAT iM G0iNG T0 BE SEEiNG WHEN MY BABY C0MES!
THANX AL0T
